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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 409523"><p>Our difficult child is 98% on her own and lives in a tiny apartment in a rough area. There are MANY problems.</p><p> </p><p>What we do (for what its worth) is give difficult child a gc to the food store right before we leave. This is not totally in line with our detachment policy....but it is a present we give to ourselves. So, right before we leave we hand her the gc and say that we just wanted to make sure she had food in case she had any unusual difficulties/ and or emergencies during our absense. Then, I have a friend who is well informed of our situation watch the dog and our house. She knows not to let difficult child in...regardless of any stories difficult child might give her.</p><p> </p><p>I would not hesitate to call the police and have them watch our house as well, but so far it has not be necessary. We do not tell her exactly when we are leaving or exactly when we are coming back. If she calls and cries that she is out of food money we simply and calmly say that she was given extra food money prior to us leaving and that it is "ashame," that she wasn't able to budget herself apropriately. This only happened once or twice at the beginning....not anymore.</p><p> </p><p>Oh...and we only tell her a day or two before that we are going on a vacation (she has no idea) and we give her the gc about 1/2 day before. </p><p> </p><p>We still monitor her medications and make sure she has medications for the period of time that we are out of town. If she calls that she has lost them...well, that is just too bad. We don't worry about it in the least.</p><p> </p><p>As a general precaution, I had a lock put on my bedroom door years ago, and when I go on vacation, I lock up my bedroom. The house is alarmed.</p><p> </p><p>We have no guilt, etc. </p><p> </p><p>So glad that you made the decision to go with-o your difficult child. Hope it is a great vacation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 409523"] Our difficult child is 98% on her own and lives in a tiny apartment in a rough area. There are MANY problems. What we do (for what its worth) is give difficult child a gc to the food store right before we leave. This is not totally in line with our detachment policy....but it is a present we give to ourselves. So, right before we leave we hand her the gc and say that we just wanted to make sure she had food in case she had any unusual difficulties/ and or emergencies during our absense. Then, I have a friend who is well informed of our situation watch the dog and our house. She knows not to let difficult child in...regardless of any stories difficult child might give her. I would not hesitate to call the police and have them watch our house as well, but so far it has not be necessary. We do not tell her exactly when we are leaving or exactly when we are coming back. If she calls and cries that she is out of food money we simply and calmly say that she was given extra food money prior to us leaving and that it is "ashame," that she wasn't able to budget herself apropriately. This only happened once or twice at the beginning....not anymore. Oh...and we only tell her a day or two before that we are going on a vacation (she has no idea) and we give her the gc about 1/2 day before. We still monitor her medications and make sure she has medications for the period of time that we are out of town. If she calls that she has lost them...well, that is just too bad. We don't worry about it in the least. As a general precaution, I had a lock put on my bedroom door years ago, and when I go on vacation, I lock up my bedroom. The house is alarmed. We have no guilt, etc. So glad that you made the decision to go with-o your difficult child. Hope it is a great vacation. [/QUOTE]
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