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VENT!! I asked about 6 YO difficult child and cops, I got cops Wed AM
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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 201819" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>Jan, it sounds as if you really are dealing with a case of school refusal. Something about school is bothering him, and at his age, it may be hard for him to articulate. For my own kids, there has at times been this general sense of stress about school -- the need to perform on demand, the need to do what the group is doing even if you don't feel like it, the desire to fit in especially when you don't feel as if you do, the unrelenting exposure to sensory stimuli and little time for downtime. I do think having difficult child work with a therapist and getting into the psychiatrist will help you all out (although I know well the feeling of wanting the appointment NOW).</p><p> </p><p>I don't know if this would work or if your own schedule permits it, but one day my younger daughter M was refusing to go to school, so much so that she missed her bus. She was talking all about how hard school was and how she just didn't like it. Instead of just loading her into the van and driving her off to school, I said, "Let's go walk Cal (our dog)." We walked around our neighborhood and talked about school -- what she liked and what she didn't. I also shared my own recollections of elementary school with her. At the end of 15 minutes, we walked home and I said, "You think you can go to school now?" She said yes and off we went. I think the simple act of changing the schedule/environment and giving her an opportunity to be heard and understood helped us out that day.</p><p> </p><p>Another time when she refused to go to school, I told her that if she couldn't go to school, that must mean she was sick and needed to go to the pediatrician. I made an appointment for that morning and clued the office staff in. The pediatrician talked to her very kindly about how school is her job, and even if she doesn't always feel like it, she needs to be there. He also assured her that her parents were doing everything possible to make her feel better (we had just started working with a psychiatrist). Again, it really helped the situation.</p><p> </p><p>Sometimes we moms of difficult children really have to think outside the box! Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 201819, member: 2423"] Jan, it sounds as if you really are dealing with a case of school refusal. Something about school is bothering him, and at his age, it may be hard for him to articulate. For my own kids, there has at times been this general sense of stress about school -- the need to perform on demand, the need to do what the group is doing even if you don't feel like it, the desire to fit in especially when you don't feel as if you do, the unrelenting exposure to sensory stimuli and little time for downtime. I do think having difficult child work with a therapist and getting into the psychiatrist will help you all out (although I know well the feeling of wanting the appointment NOW). I don't know if this would work or if your own schedule permits it, but one day my younger daughter M was refusing to go to school, so much so that she missed her bus. She was talking all about how hard school was and how she just didn't like it. Instead of just loading her into the van and driving her off to school, I said, "Let's go walk Cal (our dog)." We walked around our neighborhood and talked about school -- what she liked and what she didn't. I also shared my own recollections of elementary school with her. At the end of 15 minutes, we walked home and I said, "You think you can go to school now?" She said yes and off we went. I think the simple act of changing the schedule/environment and giving her an opportunity to be heard and understood helped us out that day. Another time when she refused to go to school, I told her that if she couldn't go to school, that must mean she was sick and needed to go to the pediatrician. I made an appointment for that morning and clued the office staff in. The pediatrician talked to her very kindly about how school is her job, and even if she doesn't always feel like it, she needs to be there. He also assured her that her parents were doing everything possible to make her feel better (we had just started working with a psychiatrist). Again, it really helped the situation. Sometimes we moms of difficult children really have to think outside the box! Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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