Jessica is having a difficult time right now and is driving me crazy. husband and I are finding more and more and more things that she is just outright lying about. Often not even on a topic that anyone has thought of. She is mostly trying to create conflama so that she can be the 'hero' and calm us down. husband and I NEVER bring up divorce. We agreed early on that we would only ever bring it up if we were serious about it. It is NOT something we say when arguing or upset. She has told me twice in the last 6 weeks that husband is so frustrated with some little issue that he is talking about divorcing me. He was really upset to hear that because it just isn't something he would do. She asked me to go and look at knife blocks because husband asked her which one I would like for Christmas. Specifically which knife block at walmart I would like. I wouldn't. husband would want me to pick one from online or from the nice kitchenware store in town. NOT from Walmart. But J actually took me to the knife aisle to discuss this!!! Of course when I asked husband about it he gave me a blank look and asked why on earth I would want a knife set from WM?? She tells me that thank you has had nightmares about this or that. thank you sleeps like a rock and the only nightmares he has had in years are about my brother. NOT about a tv show (that he didn't watch), or about a bug, or about a kid at school. When I ask thank you about it, he has no clue what I am talking about. When I go to check on him about these nightmares, he is snoring. She also will come and ask for aleve 'for thank you' because his knee or foot or head hurts. But if I go to check on him, he doesn't hurt. She will ask him if she can 'look' at a zit and he will say yes but no touching and she iwll grab him to pop it. He hasn't hit her over this, but he has wanted to. I had a talk with thank you about unwanted touching and that it is WRONG for anyone to do that. That it isn't just your private areas, it can be any area. That forcing him to let her pop his zits is assault, esp if he has said no already. We have a new rule that if thank you needs something he must tell husband or I and we will take care of it. That zits are a medical condition and parents handle medical conditions. So if he gets a zit that needs to be popped (very few do, but he gets some that are borderline boils and the doctor has said to pop or lance them and clean them out and put antibacterial ointment on them. This is both the family doctor and a dermatologist telling us this -with clear guidelines about what is and isn't in need of this.) At this point we are verifying everything she says. No exceptions. She is not allowed to touch thank you unless asked or for a hug. We have an appointment with a new therapist soon and I hope we can work through this. she has always had a tendency to embellish things, but this is different and becoming extreme. I know part of it is the stress of having to set up and do community service (asking if they will let her do it at a charity and worrying that they will ask why and what to say about it), and part is just being a teen, but it is driving me NUTS!!!!!!!! Thanks for letting me vent!!!!!!!!!!! I think this is extra frustrating because for the most part she has been easy to handle behavior wise until now.