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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 640200" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Actually, Yes. If there is one thing he does, it's accept that we didn't do anything wrong. He may act like he's entitled to everything most of the time, but there are moments when he shows appreciation. He does acknowledge that we are the victims in this case, that he doesn't deserve our help, that this situation is his fault and that he did wrong. He comes right out and says it frequently.</p><p></p><p>But acknowledging, unfortunately, doesn't mean he won't do it again. He acknowledged he was wrong the first time he stole from us, left home for a week, came back in tears saying he knew it was unforgivable. We told him nothing was unforgivable and that he could make amends. Of course, in retrospect, he didn't mean it. It didn't stop him from doing the same thing over and over again. </p><p></p><p>So he <em>says </em>that sort of thing a lot. He just doesn't seem to <em>mean </em>it. Or maybe he just puts that out of his mind when it's not convenient. </p><p></p><p>FWIW, I was paraphrasing. He didn't use those exact words. It was something more like, "This guy is a former neo-nazi but that's all in his past, he was a marine." He paused and then said something like, "He respects the hell out of you. I've talked to him about you guys and what's going on. He said it's great that you are still around. That most people don't have anyone but themselves." </p><p></p><p>Or something like that. </p><p></p><p>Yeah, he totally would tell us that. Not that he wasn't buttering us up. I never thought that he wasn't. In fact, he'd be better at manipulating if he did it more often. He generally grouses and b*tches and yells and complains</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Definitely. And that's the worst part. He's often SO apologetic. He's SO sorry. He knows what he did was horrible. He knows he hurt us deeply. He knows that the stealing was bad but the betrayal was worse. He is trying so hard to be better, to be a better person, to grow up and be a man, to make us proud.</p><p></p><p>He says these things a LOT, really, and that's what makes it so hard on me. </p><p></p><p>I don't truly believe he means it.</p><p></p><p>I WANT to believe him. I want him to be sorry. I want him to be better, be responsible. <em>I want this to be over. I want the bad things to stop. </em>He says the right things. It's very, very hard to keep remembering that he's said these things all before. Definitely the worst part. </p><p>.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 640200, member: 17309"] Actually, Yes. If there is one thing he does, it's accept that we didn't do anything wrong. He may act like he's entitled to everything most of the time, but there are moments when he shows appreciation. He does acknowledge that we are the victims in this case, that he doesn't deserve our help, that this situation is his fault and that he did wrong. He comes right out and says it frequently. But acknowledging, unfortunately, doesn't mean he won't do it again. He acknowledged he was wrong the first time he stole from us, left home for a week, came back in tears saying he knew it was unforgivable. We told him nothing was unforgivable and that he could make amends. Of course, in retrospect, he didn't mean it. It didn't stop him from doing the same thing over and over again. So he [I]says [/I]that sort of thing a lot. He just doesn't seem to [I]mean [/I]it. Or maybe he just puts that out of his mind when it's not convenient. FWIW, I was paraphrasing. He didn't use those exact words. It was something more like, "This guy is a former neo-nazi but that's all in his past, he was a marine." He paused and then said something like, "He respects the hell out of you. I've talked to him about you guys and what's going on. He said it's great that you are still around. That most people don't have anyone but themselves." Or something like that. Yeah, he totally would tell us that. Not that he wasn't buttering us up. I never thought that he wasn't. In fact, he'd be better at manipulating if he did it more often. He generally grouses and b*tches and yells and complains Definitely. And that's the worst part. He's often SO apologetic. He's SO sorry. He knows what he did was horrible. He knows he hurt us deeply. He knows that the stealing was bad but the betrayal was worse. He is trying so hard to be better, to be a better person, to grow up and be a man, to make us proud. He says these things a LOT, really, and that's what makes it so hard on me. I don't truly believe he means it. I WANT to believe him. I want him to be sorry. I want him to be better, be responsible. [I]I want this to be over. I want the bad things to stop. [/I]He says the right things. It's very, very hard to keep remembering that he's said these things all before. Definitely the worst part. . [/QUOTE]
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