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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 129004" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>thanks guys</p><p></p><p>i was already emotional have been for days i guess dealing with difficult child's and being sick it just put me in a mood. </p><p></p><p>so when i saw that i totally flipped shall we say. i know the restaraunt business is kinda sketchy with the whole honey thing and all yet i felt that was totally inappropriate.</p><p></p><p>so it took him a few hours last night to come to terms with my reaction to it. he was going down to truck to get something, kids were in bed and he asked me if i wanted to take a walk to driveway. so i did.</p><p></p><p>he said look i overreacted to your reaction to the text. i apologize for doing so its' just hard since i did what i did mos. ago your ontop of me all the time about everything if i run late from closing up store you ask why, if my phone rings or buzzes your asking me why or who is it? he said i know what i did was wrong so very long ago (there was no real infidelity yet to me that's just as wrong to text like that) but he said there is nothing i can do to take it back or make it go away. you said you forgave me yet i'm under gun all the time and it's hard being under microscope.</p><p></p><p>then he went on to say honestly the girl is a baby only 19 years old her dad worked for me for ten years i hired her basically cause her dad asked me to so she feels a certain closeness to me like i'm watching over her. she was very upset when the mgr attacked her like that and she almost walked so she text me and i calmed her down told her what to do to ensure she wouldnt' get in trouble again adn she called me honey. he said looking back now i could see how that could upset you and how you would think it suspicious adn i will make sure to tel her tomorrow that i am her boss and that calling me honey is not appropriate at all. so i'm very sorry that upset you. but i'm not doing anything with anyone and you have nothing to worry about.</p><p></p><p>i don't know if any of you ever read my post regarding confronting demons a while back. gosh i've shared so much on here but wow it feels so good to get it out regarding difficult child's myself, etc. point is trust is a very hard thing for me it was stolen years ago and i dont thnk i ever reclaimed it. this is not the first time in a relationship that i was suspicious cautious watched carefully. i just feel that he did do what he did mos. ago and that due to that fact he's gotta know that he is going to be monitored for a while and he has to be ok with taht.</p><p></p><p>so last night he said look i may not be the guy who always thinks to come home with flowers, or surprises at teh end of my long day. he said but i am the guy who on our 4th date told you that i was already in love with you and i haven't stopped yet. he said i'm also the guy that when you lost your apt. took you and girls in and support all of you and am telling you to quit your job that is too far away and do soemthing local that you like and that will make you happy i am also the guy who sits up with you when difficult child pulls her all nighter or sits with her adn talks to her so you can get rest. if that doesnt' say i love you i'm not sure what will.</p><p></p><p>he's right. i just get scared. so much to tackle girlfriend'gs, me.......lol</p><p></p><p>he is a good man he works hard he is very patient with difficult child's situation, he is patient with me financially and provides very well, he does take my verbal tantrums when they come and just tries to duck for cover. if only i could totally trust that would be wonderful. yet trust takes time to reform and grow again i think. i also explained that to him.</p><p></p><p>so funny no matter how i try to control my life it just seems like it's transforming right before my eyes.........<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>this is such a cool place. when i sit back and think about it i wouldn't be giong to columbia next week for difficult child's evaluation if it wasn't for here. no one ever suggested that. i also woulnd't be looking within me and my behaviors, alot of stuff. glad i found it here has helped tremendously.</p><p></p><p>jen</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 129004, member: 4514"] thanks guys i was already emotional have been for days i guess dealing with difficult child's and being sick it just put me in a mood. so when i saw that i totally flipped shall we say. i know the restaraunt business is kinda sketchy with the whole honey thing and all yet i felt that was totally inappropriate. so it took him a few hours last night to come to terms with my reaction to it. he was going down to truck to get something, kids were in bed and he asked me if i wanted to take a walk to driveway. so i did. he said look i overreacted to your reaction to the text. i apologize for doing so its' just hard since i did what i did mos. ago your ontop of me all the time about everything if i run late from closing up store you ask why, if my phone rings or buzzes your asking me why or who is it? he said i know what i did was wrong so very long ago (there was no real infidelity yet to me that's just as wrong to text like that) but he said there is nothing i can do to take it back or make it go away. you said you forgave me yet i'm under gun all the time and it's hard being under microscope. then he went on to say honestly the girl is a baby only 19 years old her dad worked for me for ten years i hired her basically cause her dad asked me to so she feels a certain closeness to me like i'm watching over her. she was very upset when the mgr attacked her like that and she almost walked so she text me and i calmed her down told her what to do to ensure she wouldnt' get in trouble again adn she called me honey. he said looking back now i could see how that could upset you and how you would think it suspicious adn i will make sure to tel her tomorrow that i am her boss and that calling me honey is not appropriate at all. so i'm very sorry that upset you. but i'm not doing anything with anyone and you have nothing to worry about. i don't know if any of you ever read my post regarding confronting demons a while back. gosh i've shared so much on here but wow it feels so good to get it out regarding difficult child's myself, etc. point is trust is a very hard thing for me it was stolen years ago and i dont thnk i ever reclaimed it. this is not the first time in a relationship that i was suspicious cautious watched carefully. i just feel that he did do what he did mos. ago and that due to that fact he's gotta know that he is going to be monitored for a while and he has to be ok with taht. so last night he said look i may not be the guy who always thinks to come home with flowers, or surprises at teh end of my long day. he said but i am the guy who on our 4th date told you that i was already in love with you and i haven't stopped yet. he said i'm also the guy that when you lost your apt. took you and girls in and support all of you and am telling you to quit your job that is too far away and do soemthing local that you like and that will make you happy i am also the guy who sits up with you when difficult child pulls her all nighter or sits with her adn talks to her so you can get rest. if that doesnt' say i love you i'm not sure what will. he's right. i just get scared. so much to tackle girlfriend'gs, me.......lol he is a good man he works hard he is very patient with difficult child's situation, he is patient with me financially and provides very well, he does take my verbal tantrums when they come and just tries to duck for cover. if only i could totally trust that would be wonderful. yet trust takes time to reform and grow again i think. i also explained that to him. so funny no matter how i try to control my life it just seems like it's transforming right before my eyes.........:) this is such a cool place. when i sit back and think about it i wouldn't be giong to columbia next week for difficult child's evaluation if it wasn't for here. no one ever suggested that. i also woulnd't be looking within me and my behaviors, alot of stuff. glad i found it here has helped tremendously. jen [/QUOTE]
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