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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 129111" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>that is exactly what i thought as well. im sorry to hear i'm not the only one that has had some type of issue. glad to hear that you all worked through them together says alot about your bond and love for one another.</p><p></p><p>you soo soo right with the honey thing. and you are also soo soo right about the crush thing. girls were jumping on him when his ex suddenly turned gay after their 18 year marriage. jumping. he dated me and a few others initially until week 2 then it was me everyday. our initial courtship/dating stage althoguh short was quite sweet. he would go to work leave work drive totally opposite way to me with-food everynight. i didn't want him n house with kids and all didn't feel that was right so we'd sit on steps out side of where i lived kids were sleeping and we'd talk for hours and hed bring me tea. this went on for mos. everyday everynight he'd be there we had more food than we knew what to do with. </p><p></p><p>then his dad's surprise birthday party he knew me only a mos. and invited me i met the entire family. people were shocked that we functioned so well together they said we seemed like a couple who had been together for years, we both mingled thru crowd i'm pretty outgoing so that was easy then we'd find eachother when we needed, etc. it was a great experience truly. then i'd go buy the rest. occassionally to say hi brought kids out to eat there o nce or twice to meet him in that setting very informal.</p><p></p><p>then after only 3 mos. of dating well we'd go out to dinner once a week couldn't find time with difficult child's and all so we'd do the tea on steps thing every night i was loosin git all my apt., my pets, everything. he could tell something was wrong. by that point we had already introduced kids. we just knew timing was right we took them on outting and spent 8 hours together at a play water park. the kdis alll meshed like they had been together for yeras also. it was almost too hard to believe coming from a woman divorced for 7 yeras. the whole thing was magic.</p><p></p><p>but then as i said we lost it all, family provided no answers, etc. then one night he said what is wrong something's bothering you bigtime. so i spilled hence the proposal and the us moving in. then the textin gwith other woman. which he claims as well as therapist was due to him just being scared at pace of it all.</p><p></p><p>oh if you could of seen him. loading truck with all the kids, then little difficult child was at girlfriends house she broke her wrist diving in pool. him and i had to rush back into old neighborhood with rental truck me driving his truck and four kids. he offered to take her to hospital cause i was so tired. </p><p></p><p>i'm teling you this man was like a saint from above. so when the texting thing hit it shattered alot for me regarding my vision of this man i had only met a short time ago. we'd never of moved in together so soon had it not been for my situation. alot thoght it was risky yet no one offered another solution and i was done financially i mean really done. so he was never home alone with my kids initially just as a precaution you can never be too safe. then in time we all found our way together. our 5 kids have never once been a problem in our relationship. they all love one another.</p><p></p><p>ok sorry that was alot to share. just talking about it the beginning how sweet he was makes me tear up. he was so selfless he still is very giving and selfless man. he's had alot of experience the whole 18 year marriage thing and all. he's soo good to his kids and ex it's incredible their still very good friends hard for me at times but she's gay. he's had rough time with his language a few times but ever since we spoke never happened again he's been terrific with kids for most part.</p><p></p><p>so anyway we'll keep trying. we've missed our date night almost every tuesday due to difficult child as of late. so we do dinner togehter as family and then we try to find time later on to spend together after shes down granted it can be 1 am. before our cup of tea comes out.....but hey you gotta do what you gotta do</p><p></p><p>jen <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 129111, member: 4514"] that is exactly what i thought as well. im sorry to hear i'm not the only one that has had some type of issue. glad to hear that you all worked through them together says alot about your bond and love for one another. you soo soo right with the honey thing. and you are also soo soo right about the crush thing. girls were jumping on him when his ex suddenly turned gay after their 18 year marriage. jumping. he dated me and a few others initially until week 2 then it was me everyday. our initial courtship/dating stage althoguh short was quite sweet. he would go to work leave work drive totally opposite way to me with-food everynight. i didn't want him n house with kids and all didn't feel that was right so we'd sit on steps out side of where i lived kids were sleeping and we'd talk for hours and hed bring me tea. this went on for mos. everyday everynight he'd be there we had more food than we knew what to do with. then his dad's surprise birthday party he knew me only a mos. and invited me i met the entire family. people were shocked that we functioned so well together they said we seemed like a couple who had been together for years, we both mingled thru crowd i'm pretty outgoing so that was easy then we'd find eachother when we needed, etc. it was a great experience truly. then i'd go buy the rest. occassionally to say hi brought kids out to eat there o nce or twice to meet him in that setting very informal. then after only 3 mos. of dating well we'd go out to dinner once a week couldn't find time with difficult child's and all so we'd do the tea on steps thing every night i was loosin git all my apt., my pets, everything. he could tell something was wrong. by that point we had already introduced kids. we just knew timing was right we took them on outting and spent 8 hours together at a play water park. the kdis alll meshed like they had been together for yeras also. it was almost too hard to believe coming from a woman divorced for 7 yeras. the whole thing was magic. but then as i said we lost it all, family provided no answers, etc. then one night he said what is wrong something's bothering you bigtime. so i spilled hence the proposal and the us moving in. then the textin gwith other woman. which he claims as well as therapist was due to him just being scared at pace of it all. oh if you could of seen him. loading truck with all the kids, then little difficult child was at girlfriends house she broke her wrist diving in pool. him and i had to rush back into old neighborhood with rental truck me driving his truck and four kids. he offered to take her to hospital cause i was so tired. i'm teling you this man was like a saint from above. so when the texting thing hit it shattered alot for me regarding my vision of this man i had only met a short time ago. we'd never of moved in together so soon had it not been for my situation. alot thoght it was risky yet no one offered another solution and i was done financially i mean really done. so he was never home alone with my kids initially just as a precaution you can never be too safe. then in time we all found our way together. our 5 kids have never once been a problem in our relationship. they all love one another. ok sorry that was alot to share. just talking about it the beginning how sweet he was makes me tear up. he was so selfless he still is very giving and selfless man. he's had alot of experience the whole 18 year marriage thing and all. he's soo good to his kids and ex it's incredible their still very good friends hard for me at times but she's gay. he's had rough time with his language a few times but ever since we spoke never happened again he's been terrific with kids for most part. so anyway we'll keep trying. we've missed our date night almost every tuesday due to difficult child as of late. so we do dinner togehter as family and then we try to find time later on to spend together after shes down granted it can be 1 am. before our cup of tea comes out.....but hey you gotta do what you gotta do jen :) [/QUOTE]
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