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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 374775" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>ML, </p><p> </p><p>That hug she gave you? How intense, beautiful, painful it must have been for her to say goodbye like that. I guess everyone has their own thoughts on instances like this [suicide], and I'd like to believe that it's a split second decision right then, right there for a tortured soul. The planning doesn't count for anything to me. It's all right up to that last second that tells me how much suffering someone was in. </p><p> </p><p>When my x's uncle took his life I didn't understand, I've lost other friends the same way and didn't quite grasp it. My x was always attempting to take his life, so living for years with suicidal people I can tell you there are those that really do feel there isn't any other way no matter what you would have said, or done, or tried. </p><p> </p><p>My wish here on earth as a complete non-knowing being is that while I was raised to believe it's straight to hell for you if you take your life? I somehow have to believe that there must be a second chance, a talk with the Almighty, a reckoning of sorts - maybe it's just like riding the eternal bus - but being the last stop? Hard to say, but I do know this - I never pass up an opportunity to tell anyone they are loved. I don't mind if someone thinks I'm a little off or doofy. I mean what I say when I say it. (even the bad parts going down the road....but then that's another story and that's only just right then Know what I mean??) </p><p> </p><p>I think you bring up a very important point - It's okay not to like someones behavior - but don't ever miss an opportunity to remind them that regardless of what they do - you love them. DF and I were kibbitzing this morning over nothing big - just cabin fever I think. His friend came and said "I need you to go with me." DF was getting ready to leave - MUCH TO MY HAPPY HAPPY SELF HOUSE TO MYSELF FOR AN HOUR YIPPEE...but before he left? He came to me, and we hugged and said "I love you." to each other. Twenty minutes after they left the house there was a horrible accident a few miles from our house. They were stopped on the highway - an 18 wheeler didn't see them in time....it hit the brakes, skidded out of control, went sideways, locked up, rolled into the ditch, and missed hitting the side of the car DF was in by literally 8". The truck driver got out unscathed, DF said except for a change of pants - they were okay too. Right after that? The guy next to them nearly got side swiped by a dumptruck ----it went off the road, hit the guardrail and took out 50' of wire guard rail and median - missed a jeep by inches. So.....while DF is telling me this - I was thinking HOW would I have felt.....if we didn't have our NEVER leave angry - without saying I LOVE YOU -=house rule? I know how I would have felt. My last thoughts and words anger over something dumb....</p><p> </p><p>So yes you are right....and I shall take this opportunity of the evening to tell YOU ......I love you and appreciate you very much. </p><p> </p><p>I am sorry for the loss of your friend. May she find the peace she was seeking and rest there quietly. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs& Love </p><p>Star 2L</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 374775, member: 4964"] ML, That hug she gave you? How intense, beautiful, painful it must have been for her to say goodbye like that. I guess everyone has their own thoughts on instances like this [suicide], and I'd like to believe that it's a split second decision right then, right there for a tortured soul. The planning doesn't count for anything to me. It's all right up to that last second that tells me how much suffering someone was in. When my x's uncle took his life I didn't understand, I've lost other friends the same way and didn't quite grasp it. My x was always attempting to take his life, so living for years with suicidal people I can tell you there are those that really do feel there isn't any other way no matter what you would have said, or done, or tried. My wish here on earth as a complete non-knowing being is that while I was raised to believe it's straight to hell for you if you take your life? I somehow have to believe that there must be a second chance, a talk with the Almighty, a reckoning of sorts - maybe it's just like riding the eternal bus - but being the last stop? Hard to say, but I do know this - I never pass up an opportunity to tell anyone they are loved. I don't mind if someone thinks I'm a little off or doofy. I mean what I say when I say it. (even the bad parts going down the road....but then that's another story and that's only just right then Know what I mean??) I think you bring up a very important point - It's okay not to like someones behavior - but don't ever miss an opportunity to remind them that regardless of what they do - you love them. DF and I were kibbitzing this morning over nothing big - just cabin fever I think. His friend came and said "I need you to go with me." DF was getting ready to leave - MUCH TO MY HAPPY HAPPY SELF HOUSE TO MYSELF FOR AN HOUR YIPPEE...but before he left? He came to me, and we hugged and said "I love you." to each other. Twenty minutes after they left the house there was a horrible accident a few miles from our house. They were stopped on the highway - an 18 wheeler didn't see them in time....it hit the brakes, skidded out of control, went sideways, locked up, rolled into the ditch, and missed hitting the side of the car DF was in by literally 8". The truck driver got out unscathed, DF said except for a change of pants - they were okay too. Right after that? The guy next to them nearly got side swiped by a dumptruck ----it went off the road, hit the guardrail and took out 50' of wire guard rail and median - missed a jeep by inches. So.....while DF is telling me this - I was thinking HOW would I have felt.....if we didn't have our NEVER leave angry - without saying I LOVE YOU -=house rule? I know how I would have felt. My last thoughts and words anger over something dumb.... So yes you are right....and I shall take this opportunity of the evening to tell YOU ......I love you and appreciate you very much. I am sorry for the loss of your friend. May she find the peace she was seeking and rest there quietly. Hugs& Love Star 2L [/QUOTE]
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