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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 662540" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>No. DCs do. Adults with families do not expect their parents to buy them anything. They may ask when tight and in a respectful way and you can say yes or no, but they don't get angry if you say no.</p><p></p><p>My daughter Princess has asked her dad her help her in a respectful say. Sometimes he will ;sometimes he won't. Either way, he is now 66 and anytime he needs anything done, including just a haircut (Princess has a Cosmetology license) they do it. They help him move heavy furniture. They help him with his computer. They don't make a big deal out of it.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Your son sounds selfish and entitled and I would be hard put to call him a easy child. I think the "bite me" is disrespectful but the least of his problems. My kids have never said that to me. I did have one kid sometimes say FU to me when he was distressed (he has anxiety disorder a nd is not nice when stressed) and I refused to talk to him for a few days and wh en I did I told him that anytime he was not respectful to me, as I am to him, I will gently hang up. That has greatly relieved the problem. He knows I mean it and things are much more respectful now.</p><p></p><p>I personally think it's time to stop handing this adult man money. He isn't starving. He seems to just like to hoard his money...he could have more than you. If you want to buy little gifts for the child, sure. But forget the free dinners all the time, and the other stuff you do and if he won't help your older husband out without making a stink about it, I'd consider cutting off any money you give him at all, even if he jumps up a nd down and holds his breath. He has a job. Maybe he needs to look at his lifestyle and give up, say, cable. Or downscale the cell phones.The picture you painted here of him, at least to me, makes him sound like he isn't a very nice or mature or caring person. Again, this was MY opinion only. Others may not share it. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) does not mean "No, I won't help my older father with the lawn." Has nothing to do with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Different animal.</p><p></p><p>You didn't say how old he is, b ut he is acting l ike a child right out of college and isn't even thankful that you are there for him. This is your choice, of course. It would not fly with me.</p><p></p><p>Wishing you good luck and wisdom to make hard decisions that are best for YOU...have a great day!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 662540, member: 1550"] No. DCs do. Adults with families do not expect their parents to buy them anything. They may ask when tight and in a respectful way and you can say yes or no, but they don't get angry if you say no. My daughter Princess has asked her dad her help her in a respectful say. Sometimes he will ;sometimes he won't. Either way, he is now 66 and anytime he needs anything done, including just a haircut (Princess has a Cosmetology license) they do it. They help him move heavy furniture. They help him with his computer. They don't make a big deal out of it. Your son sounds selfish and entitled and I would be hard put to call him a easy child. I think the "bite me" is disrespectful but the least of his problems. My kids have never said that to me. I did have one kid sometimes say FU to me when he was distressed (he has anxiety disorder a nd is not nice when stressed) and I refused to talk to him for a few days and wh en I did I told him that anytime he was not respectful to me, as I am to him, I will gently hang up. That has greatly relieved the problem. He knows I mean it and things are much more respectful now. I personally think it's time to stop handing this adult man money. He isn't starving. He seems to just like to hoard his money...he could have more than you. If you want to buy little gifts for the child, sure. But forget the free dinners all the time, and the other stuff you do and if he won't help your older husband out without making a stink about it, I'd consider cutting off any money you give him at all, even if he jumps up a nd down and holds his breath. He has a job. Maybe he needs to look at his lifestyle and give up, say, cable. Or downscale the cell phones.The picture you painted here of him, at least to me, makes him sound like he isn't a very nice or mature or caring person. Again, this was MY opinion only. Others may not share it. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) does not mean "No, I won't help my older father with the lawn." Has nothing to do with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Different animal. You didn't say how old he is, b ut he is acting l ike a child right out of college and isn't even thankful that you are there for him. This is your choice, of course. It would not fly with me. Wishing you good luck and wisdom to make hard decisions that are best for YOU...have a great day! [/QUOTE]
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