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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 662661" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Nomad, everyone has given you good advice. Perhaps it may be prudent to express to your son what your feelings are before you take any action. We can read a lot into his actions, however, only he knows why he is responding the way he is. It all seems rather incongruent to me. There may be more to it that he isn't even aware of himself, something completely unrelated to what is being addressed. </p><p></p><p>And, I could be dead wrong too. I am just remembering times I got to have a heart to heart with someone and found out that all of my interpretations were completely wrong, once the gates of truth were opened up and it was safe to show up, I found out something entirely different was going on which was at times not even up to awareness yet, but the act of truthful expression brought it to the surface. Sometimes we act out in ways that are inappropriate but it isn't about the obvious. </p><p></p><p>I don't know, if it were me, I think I would attempt a communication and leave my speculations aside for a moment and really try to hear what is being said. Our kids have all sorts of "stuff" with us that we aren't even aware of......I know I did with my parents......and sometimes that "stuff" can get in the way of honest appropriate responses. It's a slippery slope. </p><p></p><p>I remember one time when my daughter was acting badly and I was able to sit with her for awhile in my newly attained ability to not say much and just listen......... and eventually I found out she was really scared about something and she broke down. Her acting out was covering up a fear. I had no idea. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, none of this may be the case with your son, it was just my first reaction and I thought I would share it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 662661, member: 13542"] Nomad, everyone has given you good advice. Perhaps it may be prudent to express to your son what your feelings are before you take any action. We can read a lot into his actions, however, only he knows why he is responding the way he is. It all seems rather incongruent to me. There may be more to it that he isn't even aware of himself, something completely unrelated to what is being addressed. And, I could be dead wrong too. I am just remembering times I got to have a heart to heart with someone and found out that all of my interpretations were completely wrong, once the gates of truth were opened up and it was safe to show up, I found out something entirely different was going on which was at times not even up to awareness yet, but the act of truthful expression brought it to the surface. Sometimes we act out in ways that are inappropriate but it isn't about the obvious. I don't know, if it were me, I think I would attempt a communication and leave my speculations aside for a moment and really try to hear what is being said. Our kids have all sorts of "stuff" with us that we aren't even aware of......I know I did with my parents......and sometimes that "stuff" can get in the way of honest appropriate responses. It's a slippery slope. I remember one time when my daughter was acting badly and I was able to sit with her for awhile in my newly attained ability to not say much and just listen......... and eventually I found out she was really scared about something and she broke down. Her acting out was covering up a fear. I had no idea. Anyway, none of this may be the case with your son, it was just my first reaction and I thought I would share it. [/QUOTE]
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