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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 723717" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Thinking of your son in jail waiting to be on the docket reminds me of when my brother was in jail. I was living in another state, so I could not be much help for my mother and I could not go rescue my brother, thank Heaven. My parents had bailed him out the first time, but when he was arrested again just 3 days later, they did not bail him out. </p><p></p><p>We spoke about it after he had gone through rehab and was sober. He referred to it as The County Betty Ford Clinic. Detoxing there was NOT fun, but it was far more helpful than the rest of the family had any idea that it could be. My brother realized that every single person there was in jail due to drug or alcohol problems. Those in for drug problems also had alcohol problems. He was was among the youngest in his group, so he was looking at men who were aged 40 to 70+ who had ruined their lives over something he kept insisted couldn't ruin your life. It made him wonder how stupid he was to keep thinking that way. Some of the older men were pretty blunt with him about how he needed to get sober and stay sober. He kept saying he thought AA was bogus because he didn't believe in Christianity or God or whatever. Those men read him the riot act over that also. They let him know that he was just trying to find excuses to not get sober and to ruin his life. </p><p></p><p>Ever since he got sober, my brother has told my parents and I that leaving him in jail for the weeks we did was probably the best thing we did for him. If we had not done that, he never would have accepted his need for rehab and AA. His life is so much better now, and that is amazing. </p><p></p><p>So try to remember this as you leave your son in jail. He needs to be there to learn the life lessons that will make him a better, stronger human being.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 723717, member: 1233"] Thinking of your son in jail waiting to be on the docket reminds me of when my brother was in jail. I was living in another state, so I could not be much help for my mother and I could not go rescue my brother, thank Heaven. My parents had bailed him out the first time, but when he was arrested again just 3 days later, they did not bail him out. We spoke about it after he had gone through rehab and was sober. He referred to it as The County Betty Ford Clinic. Detoxing there was NOT fun, but it was far more helpful than the rest of the family had any idea that it could be. My brother realized that every single person there was in jail due to drug or alcohol problems. Those in for drug problems also had alcohol problems. He was was among the youngest in his group, so he was looking at men who were aged 40 to 70+ who had ruined their lives over something he kept insisted couldn't ruin your life. It made him wonder how stupid he was to keep thinking that way. Some of the older men were pretty blunt with him about how he needed to get sober and stay sober. He kept saying he thought AA was bogus because he didn't believe in Christianity or God or whatever. Those men read him the riot act over that also. They let him know that he was just trying to find excuses to not get sober and to ruin his life. Ever since he got sober, my brother has told my parents and I that leaving him in jail for the weeks we did was probably the best thing we did for him. If we had not done that, he never would have accepted his need for rehab and AA. His life is so much better now, and that is amazing. So try to remember this as you leave your son in jail. He needs to be there to learn the life lessons that will make him a better, stronger human being. [/QUOTE]
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