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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 701475" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>There's no such thing as a recreational addict. We have lost the ability to use substances recreationally, if we ever had it to begin with. The truth is that there is no cure, only remission. No matter how much clean time we accrue, we are constantly on the edge. Even fantasizing about using is very dangerous. We start to forget all the bad that came from using, and pine for the days before we lost control. Our brains aren't like most non-addicts. Regardless of how one personally feels about pot, and alcohol, the addict early in recovery cannot do it. Not nearly enough time has passed for him to truly appreciate all the pain he caused his loved ones, and himself. Not enough time to put his shattered life back together. Recovery is a process, not a singular event. We do not recover, we are merely recovering. When we are using, we are not recovering. The less vigilant we allow ourselves to become, the greater the chance of relapse. I cannot tell you if he will ever be capable of stopping at just a drink with dinner, or a joint with a friend. But I can say that, as of this moment, he cannot. Nor should he ever try. His foundation is virtually non-existent. Destruction is easy, fixing is hard. We did not destroy our lives overnight, and we sure as <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> cannot fix it overnight. It will take considerably longer to fix it than it did to destroy it. He's still relatively young, though. He still has plenty of time to start real recovery, and make something of his life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 701475, member: 20267"] There's no such thing as a recreational addict. We have lost the ability to use substances recreationally, if we ever had it to begin with. The truth is that there is no cure, only remission. No matter how much clean time we accrue, we are constantly on the edge. Even fantasizing about using is very dangerous. We start to forget all the bad that came from using, and pine for the days before we lost control. Our brains aren't like most non-addicts. Regardless of how one personally feels about pot, and alcohol, the addict early in recovery cannot do it. Not nearly enough time has passed for him to truly appreciate all the pain he caused his loved ones, and himself. Not enough time to put his shattered life back together. Recovery is a process, not a singular event. We do not recover, we are merely recovering. When we are using, we are not recovering. The less vigilant we allow ourselves to become, the greater the chance of relapse. I cannot tell you if he will ever be capable of stopping at just a drink with dinner, or a joint with a friend. But I can say that, as of this moment, he cannot. Nor should he ever try. His foundation is virtually non-existent. Destruction is easy, fixing is hard. We did not destroy our lives overnight, and we sure as :censored2: cannot fix it overnight. It will take considerably longer to fix it than it did to destroy it. He's still relatively young, though. He still has plenty of time to start real recovery, and make something of his life. [/QUOTE]
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