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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 409402" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>mavh - </p><p> </p><p>If your step-daughter is acting out in anger to the point that she is truly a danger to others? ie- hitting you and her sister - leaving marks, bruises, cutting, breaking things and threatening bodily harm, harming animals - these are all signs that meet the criteria for her to be admitted to ANY psychiatric hospital. DANGER TO SELF AND OTHERS. You would have to really sell it to the staff at the hospital and by that I'm not saying lie - but don't down play it once you get here there either. Let them see where she has hit you, or her sister. Start a paper trail of this abuse. EVEN IF - they don't take her every time or the first FEW times you take her? KEEP taking her OR at the very least, if you don't want to go to the Emergency Room with her (which would be MY first reaction) then call the police and at least have a report made. NO it's doubtful they will take a child to jail, or even juvie - that's the beauty of calling the police at this age - you can even GO to the police station and ask them to WRITE an incident report. The good thing with those incident reports? You are creating a paper trail. Those paper trails and reports adding up? </p><p>Eventually can get you before a judge in family court and get you SOME HELP for her. Either he can court order someone to be a caseworker for her, get court ordered counseling for her, have her placed in a facility where she gets looked at and put on medications, or gets continued counseling, or if he deems her so bad - she can even be placed outside the home in a residential care facility for a period of time until which she can get her anger under control. </p><p> </p><p>If she is leaving bruises on you and harming animals? It WILL get worse. You need to get the behaviors under control and all kidding aside with Bio-Mom? You ALL need to be on the same page about a course of treatment FOR THIS CHILD. Apparently BM knows there is something wrong. My guess would be that someone is already seeing her and has put her on Vyvance - so someone is aware she has issues and is very angry. If she's in therapy I'd ask why it isn't helping, or what else can be done to help her with her anger issues. Or like you insisted - can she come more than one time a week? I think you have a great handle on this! Bravo! Or can you all start coming as a family once a week. Hitting and acting out - not good. This kid is really angry - and she needs to learn anger management skills quick. Who is teaching her any of those? What about art therapy? Any extra cirricular activities? </p><p> </p><p>The fact that she hasn't had any problems in school is good, a lot of difficult child's function well in one place and not the other. Home good, school not. School good, and fall apart at home. Some fall apart at both places. Did she have any really good therapy when her Mom and Dad went through the divorce? Or was it just assumed she was too young to understand and it would all work out eventually? Reason I ask is because most of my sons anger believe it or not was from the divorce. I think it's only now - that he's 20 and sees what a jerk his boyfriend is - that he 'gets' why I left. His anger has subsided greatly with me - and that's some kind of a miracle - unspoken - but still a miracle. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs for your troubles. Hugs for your daughter too. </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 409402, member: 4964"] mavh - If your step-daughter is acting out in anger to the point that she is truly a danger to others? ie- hitting you and her sister - leaving marks, bruises, cutting, breaking things and threatening bodily harm, harming animals - these are all signs that meet the criteria for her to be admitted to ANY psychiatric hospital. DANGER TO SELF AND OTHERS. You would have to really sell it to the staff at the hospital and by that I'm not saying lie - but don't down play it once you get here there either. Let them see where she has hit you, or her sister. Start a paper trail of this abuse. EVEN IF - they don't take her every time or the first FEW times you take her? KEEP taking her OR at the very least, if you don't want to go to the Emergency Room with her (which would be MY first reaction) then call the police and at least have a report made. NO it's doubtful they will take a child to jail, or even juvie - that's the beauty of calling the police at this age - you can even GO to the police station and ask them to WRITE an incident report. The good thing with those incident reports? You are creating a paper trail. Those paper trails and reports adding up? Eventually can get you before a judge in family court and get you SOME HELP for her. Either he can court order someone to be a caseworker for her, get court ordered counseling for her, have her placed in a facility where she gets looked at and put on medications, or gets continued counseling, or if he deems her so bad - she can even be placed outside the home in a residential care facility for a period of time until which she can get her anger under control. If she is leaving bruises on you and harming animals? It WILL get worse. You need to get the behaviors under control and all kidding aside with Bio-Mom? You ALL need to be on the same page about a course of treatment FOR THIS CHILD. Apparently BM knows there is something wrong. My guess would be that someone is already seeing her and has put her on Vyvance - so someone is aware she has issues and is very angry. If she's in therapy I'd ask why it isn't helping, or what else can be done to help her with her anger issues. Or like you insisted - can she come more than one time a week? I think you have a great handle on this! Bravo! Or can you all start coming as a family once a week. Hitting and acting out - not good. This kid is really angry - and she needs to learn anger management skills quick. Who is teaching her any of those? What about art therapy? Any extra cirricular activities? The fact that she hasn't had any problems in school is good, a lot of difficult child's function well in one place and not the other. Home good, school not. School good, and fall apart at home. Some fall apart at both places. Did she have any really good therapy when her Mom and Dad went through the divorce? Or was it just assumed she was too young to understand and it would all work out eventually? Reason I ask is because most of my sons anger believe it or not was from the divorce. I think it's only now - that he's 20 and sees what a jerk his boyfriend is - that he 'gets' why I left. His anger has subsided greatly with me - and that's some kind of a miracle - unspoken - but still a miracle. Hugs for your troubles. Hugs for your daughter too. Star [/QUOTE]
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