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Waiting & trying to survive (his RAGE) Anyone with Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) experience? (not sure that's it)
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 451622" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I adopted two children who were alcohol/drug exposed in utero. One had so many issues, he couldn't live with us. He also had attachment problems and sexual issues and was dangerous.</p><p></p><p>My other son was obviously damaged by the pre-natal drug/alcohol use. There is almost no way not to have a lot of problems related to that so whatever may be the norm for teens etc. is going to be worse for him. If he has brain damage due to alcohol (this is the case with both Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)), he will need close supervision all his life and also good people surrouninding him to help him make good decisions and not get into trouble. Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE)/Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) kids usually can't learn from their mistakes. My son was lucky...he got off with only autistic spectrum disorder and learning disabilities in spite of having crack in his system at birth (and we know if birthmother said "yes" to crack, she didn't say "no" to alcohol). I have read that alcohol is actually the worse poison of all for an unborn baby. medications never helped much. He does better medications free and, considering his early start in life, he is doing very well.</p><p></p><p>Do not blame yourself. Do not blame professionals who may not understand the cruel affects of alcohol/drug exposure in utero and may just try to pass it off as something like ADHD. I suggest seeing a neuropsychologist who will be able to see all of your child's strengths and deficits (that were caused by the drug ingestion). Then I'd see a psychiatrist after that, but only one who is familiar with alcohol affects/drug affects...and how these kids usually behave as t hey grow (although they are all different, there are similarities). Maybe get in touch with an Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)/Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) group in your area to compare notes on how best to parent your child....or even just an adoptive parent group can be very helpful. Most of them have seen it all/tried it all...and have good advice and a shoulder to cry on.</p><p></p><p>Good luck with on journey and please keep us posted. </p><p></p><p><a href="https://www.cnsproductions.com/pdf/Young.pdf" target="_blank">https://www.cnsproductions.com/pdf/Young.pdf</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 451622, member: 1550"] I adopted two children who were alcohol/drug exposed in utero. One had so many issues, he couldn't live with us. He also had attachment problems and sexual issues and was dangerous. My other son was obviously damaged by the pre-natal drug/alcohol use. There is almost no way not to have a lot of problems related to that so whatever may be the norm for teens etc. is going to be worse for him. If he has brain damage due to alcohol (this is the case with both Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)), he will need close supervision all his life and also good people surrouninding him to help him make good decisions and not get into trouble. Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE)/Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) kids usually can't learn from their mistakes. My son was lucky...he got off with only autistic spectrum disorder and learning disabilities in spite of having crack in his system at birth (and we know if birthmother said "yes" to crack, she didn't say "no" to alcohol). I have read that alcohol is actually the worse poison of all for an unborn baby. medications never helped much. He does better medications free and, considering his early start in life, he is doing very well. Do not blame yourself. Do not blame professionals who may not understand the cruel affects of alcohol/drug exposure in utero and may just try to pass it off as something like ADHD. I suggest seeing a neuropsychologist who will be able to see all of your child's strengths and deficits (that were caused by the drug ingestion). Then I'd see a psychiatrist after that, but only one who is familiar with alcohol affects/drug affects...and how these kids usually behave as t hey grow (although they are all different, there are similarities). Maybe get in touch with an Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)/Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) group in your area to compare notes on how best to parent your child....or even just an adoptive parent group can be very helpful. Most of them have seen it all/tried it all...and have good advice and a shoulder to cry on. Good luck with on journey and please keep us posted. [url]https://www.cnsproductions.com/pdf/Young.pdf[/url] [/QUOTE]
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