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<blockquote data-quote="1 Day At a Time" data-source="post: 84722" data-attributes="member: 3704"><p>Marg,</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child/easy child 2 sounds so much like our difficult child it is eerie. He is very bright but totally Aspie in his approach to life. Unfortunately everyone is wowed by his intelligence and they "overlook" the other issues until they become too glaring to ignore. Our home is completely controlled by him - and honestly - it has been since his birth. The intelligence and AS are a wicked combination - throw in some hormones and boy did you have issues to deal with!</p><p></p><p>For years now I have been hoping that this is a phase, he's just VERY immature, he's just quirky - that he will outgrow it all. This year reality really set in for me - and I realized that we are all in this for the long run. I am pretty sure now, that in spite of his incredible talents, he will probably never be able to live independently. I have my serious doubts about his ability to ever hold a job - though husband and I disagree on this. I would really love to be proven wrong - but years of helping disabled individuals procure and maintain employment makes me think otherwise. The most crucial skill needed in getting and keeping a job is the ability to get along with others on the job!</p><p></p><p>We're working now with a great husband-wife neuropsy team to get some serious future planning in place for him. Since husband and I are , aheem, not so very young anymore - this means planning for his care after we are gone. It's so easy for me to slip into the fantasy that he's going to get better. Then I snap to, and remind myself - he is what he is - and I enjoy and love him for who he is - our special and beloved son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1 Day At a Time, post: 84722, member: 3704"] Marg, Your difficult child/easy child 2 sounds so much like our difficult child it is eerie. He is very bright but totally Aspie in his approach to life. Unfortunately everyone is wowed by his intelligence and they "overlook" the other issues until they become too glaring to ignore. Our home is completely controlled by him - and honestly - it has been since his birth. The intelligence and AS are a wicked combination - throw in some hormones and boy did you have issues to deal with! For years now I have been hoping that this is a phase, he's just VERY immature, he's just quirky - that he will outgrow it all. This year reality really set in for me - and I realized that we are all in this for the long run. I am pretty sure now, that in spite of his incredible talents, he will probably never be able to live independently. I have my serious doubts about his ability to ever hold a job - though husband and I disagree on this. I would really love to be proven wrong - but years of helping disabled individuals procure and maintain employment makes me think otherwise. The most crucial skill needed in getting and keeping a job is the ability to get along with others on the job! We're working now with a great husband-wife neuropsy team to get some serious future planning in place for him. Since husband and I are , aheem, not so very young anymore - this means planning for his care after we are gone. It's so easy for me to slip into the fantasy that he's going to get better. Then I snap to, and remind myself - he is what he is - and I enjoy and love him for who he is - our special and beloved son. [/QUOTE]
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