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<blockquote data-quote="mom_to_3" data-source="post: 62464" data-attributes="member: 30"><p>Masta,</p><p>Our difficult child's sound almost exactly alike except for the mentally delayed part. We too turned our difficult child over to foster care, hoping that the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and specialized foster parents would be able to help our difficult child more than we had been able to accomplish. I can't begin to tell you how lacking their "services" were and I believe our difficult child turned out much worse at their hands. Way to much patronizing, and enabling of her bad behaviors and the lack of accountability I think CPS, the foster parents, the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and the p-docs and therapists had to each other, themselves, to the parents and most importantly to the children they are to serve. I don't think all of the people involved are bad, but there is definitely an undercurrent (tidal wave???) of corruptness in that government entity.</p><p></p><p>What is, is what is, with our difficult child's. They will not change no matter how much YOU want it to or how much you do to help them. Your anxiety is very much understandable. Your body is telling you something, heed those signals and stay out of it. Do not involve yourself or you will be sucked into the chaos that will be. </p><p>I see two options, one of which is probably not going to happen, but I would still have to try. See if for once you can reason with your difficult child (HA) and try to have her place the baby for adoption. I doubt she'll agree, but I couldn't rest unless I knew I had tried to help the baby that way. The only other option I see is to keep CPS informed when the baby is born and anytime you are aware of any problems. Decide now what kind of involvement you want in this baby's life and act accordingly. Be firm in your convictions whatever they are because your difficult child is going to drag herself, the baby and YOU to hell and back, I can almost guarantee it. Sorry to be such a downer, but this has been our experience. Our difficult child's sound very much alike. I pray you find peace for your worried heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_to_3, post: 62464, member: 30"] Masta, Our difficult child's sound almost exactly alike except for the mentally delayed part. We too turned our difficult child over to foster care, hoping that the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and specialized foster parents would be able to help our difficult child more than we had been able to accomplish. I can't begin to tell you how lacking their "services" were and I believe our difficult child turned out much worse at their hands. Way to much patronizing, and enabling of her bad behaviors and the lack of accountability I think CPS, the foster parents, the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and the p-docs and therapists had to each other, themselves, to the parents and most importantly to the children they are to serve. I don't think all of the people involved are bad, but there is definitely an undercurrent (tidal wave???) of corruptness in that government entity. What is, is what is, with our difficult child's. They will not change no matter how much YOU want it to or how much you do to help them. Your anxiety is very much understandable. Your body is telling you something, heed those signals and stay out of it. Do not involve yourself or you will be sucked into the chaos that will be. I see two options, one of which is probably not going to happen, but I would still have to try. See if for once you can reason with your difficult child (HA) and try to have her place the baby for adoption. I doubt she'll agree, but I couldn't rest unless I knew I had tried to help the baby that way. The only other option I see is to keep CPS informed when the baby is born and anytime you are aware of any problems. Decide now what kind of involvement you want in this baby's life and act accordingly. Be firm in your convictions whatever they are because your difficult child is going to drag herself, the baby and YOU to hell and back, I can almost guarantee it. Sorry to be such a downer, but this has been our experience. Our difficult child's sound very much alike. I pray you find peace for your worried heart. [/QUOTE]
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