for those of you who remember my story, I have a 18yr difficult child, i placed her in foster care voluntarily, who is 8 weeks pregnant who suffers from (unofficially diagnosis'ed and not treated becuase the State refused to listen to me) bipolar and borderline personality disorder. graduated in may (has learning disorders). difficult child and caseworker have been enabling difficult child's behaviors for 2yrs now. but the last few months difficult child has shown her true colors. Her case worker emailed me this: difficult child will be released at the next hearing aug 15th. She is pregnant and not listening to a word anyone tells her. Being in care after graduation of high school to receive services is something that we try SO hard to do but when a youth hurts and destroys her placement, there is no much we can do. difficult child has decided that we are not her support system but b/f parents are. There are no long term group homes for difficult child. difficult child is able to function in society - she just does not function like we would like her to. She had not sexually offended anyone. She has finished school. Her choices are poor but we can't put her in a group home because she got pregnant and lies to people. I don't believe releasing her is the best thing but she has pushed it to that. difficult child was to go out in her own apartment soon but can't be living on her own, pregnant so she will be unable to do that option. She can't stay at fostermoms because she is destroying that relationship too. She has related that she wants to move in with you guys. This is an option that we could look at if you want..... case worker. foster care wants to hold a meeting tonight at 6pm so we can meet the parents of the b/f and the b/f. and to confront difficult child with all of her lies. she has lied to everyone about everyone else (triangulation). she has become verbally abusive to her foster parents. im pushing for difficult child to be placed in a long term group home. case worker thinks difficult child can look after herself. she has been diagnosed as brain damaged but not bad enough to claim SSI (so I have been told). difficult child mentality is about half her age. I have detached from her but I am still concerned about her and now this baby. background info on the b/f: b/f's pand his parents have bought everything for baby (new and 2nd hand) already including a crib, breast pumps toys etc. b/friend is 17yrs old.. and was in a structured self contained class for boys at the same high school as difficult child. (difficult child was in the structured class for girls) b/f did not graduate, works at a pizza place. b/fs parents supposedly have seen difficult child lash out to her foster mom and still want her to move in. my anxiety is through the roof... coz I know difficult child will become extremely aggravated tonight at this meeting.. when she is confronted she lashed out. my email to caseworker: So what is the purpose of this meeting tomorrow night? So husband and I can meet b/f's parents? That can be done anytime. difficult child destroys relationship because she has mental health issues. Issues that were never taken care of. Issues that I have been nagging you about for years and you chose to ignore me and the issues. It seems to me foster mom and yourself are dealing with what I went through with difficult child. Cant you see difficult child's mentality is not normal? She jumps from one person to the next, she has relationship issues. I am sure she is bipolar and a has a personality disorder (borderline). difficult child cannot keep or have a genuine relationship with anyone. Show me how difficult child can function in society, because difficult child's teacher and you pushed her through school and enabled her behaviors? Because she can hold down a job (barely). She isn't even working anymore. She cannot follow through with simple tasks, she hasn't got her drivers license. You promised me you would treat difficult child like one of your own and now you are wiping your hands clean of her. When the going gets tough is when she needs the support. Would you wipe your hands of your own child because they pushed you away and lied? difficult child cannot move back home, we cannot handle her drama. I don't know where she got this idea to move back home. difficult child hasn't spoken to or seen us since the march cftm. We have text back and forth and that's all. Why didn't you address how you rudely treated me at the (CFTM) Child Family Team Meeting? Why cant you admit you were wrong about difficult child and that all of her actions just proved everything I told you about her, and that you refused to listen to me because "I was a negative support person". I hope you have learned from all of this. Families have been deeply hurt. A baby is now on the way, with little to no hope of a normal stable life. Masta difficult child will move in with babies father and parents. it wont be too long before an arguement errupts. if she shows up at my door i will give her contact details for womens shelters. is there anything the State can do that they arent telling me? i know difficult child cant move back home, im worried about her. please any of you with some advice, im all ears.