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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 226010" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Oh, she's good. She's darn good at talking herself out of trouble. The cow!</p><p></p><p>Shari, despite your being forewarned that she is incredibly manipulative (directed to protecting herself from the consequences of her own actions), she's still conning you. And if she can con you, the child's mother, then she can REALLY con other staff.</p><p></p><p>I say she's conning you, because you said "she was apparently the only one there strong enough to handle him and he was destroying things ~ given the situation, I can accept this - we are in the middle of an ice storm and they are short staffed."</p><p></p><p>You shouldn't accept this, because you had given directives to the school that she must stay away from him. He has been previously, repeatedly traumatised by her, he is likely to react badly to her mere presence (you've seen this yourself) and here she was, with her hands on your child!</p><p></p><p>Why was it necessary for your child to be restrained? What went on before?</p><p></p><p>I strongly suspect that if this were my child, and I found a teacher who I knew had it in for my child was actually in a room with my child with her hands on him, I'd start throwing things around myself. Starting with the teacher herself. That [unprintable] cow!</p><p></p><p>I think the reason she is still at this school, is because she DOES have good history (you said before, she founded this school?) and they don't want to throw it all away for what they perceive to be a difficult child.</p><p></p><p>HOWEVER - I think she has blotted her copybook well and truly; she's in fact upset the ink pot all over it, it's not just a blot.</p><p></p><p>To say that in front of him - sheer spite, pure venom, highly inappropriate.</p><p></p><p>Your poor kid - he is just a kid, he is a kid with problems you're still struggling to get identified, he needs his IEP in place and followed through with; YOU deserve better from this school, than to have this teacher in the same room as your son when you've asked for this to not happen. They have disrespected you and your child both, by not keeping this creep away from your son.</p><p></p><p>So they're short-handed? HOW short-handed? Even if she was the only teacher in the school, she shouldn't have laid hands on him. Some kids benefit form holding; some do not. For some kids, it will set them off much worse.</p><p></p><p>This teacher has a history of escalating things with difficult child. You need to find out what happened before, because I strongly suspect she has done it again - escalated things with difficult child, purely to trigger such a situation so she can justify throwing your son out. If he goes, then so do all the disciplinary issues because she then is vindicated.</p><p></p><p>That said, is it worth the continual struggle with this school, if it is taking its toll on him with no concession given (despite assurances)?</p><p></p><p>I would keep fighting, even if you choose to send him elsewhere. Your child has been traumatised, they had been warned that this was not good and she was bad for him - they allowed this last incident to happen. I would put this one entirely on the school - their fault, completely. She should have stayed away from your son. If he grabbed the scissors and threatened to commit hari kari with them - she shouldn't go near him, she should pick up the phone and call an ambulance, after someone ELSE has told her, because she shouldn't even be near enough to him to know what has happened.</p><p></p><p>Oooh, she makes me so angry!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 226010, member: 1991"] Oh, she's good. She's darn good at talking herself out of trouble. The cow! Shari, despite your being forewarned that she is incredibly manipulative (directed to protecting herself from the consequences of her own actions), she's still conning you. And if she can con you, the child's mother, then she can REALLY con other staff. I say she's conning you, because you said "she was apparently the only one there strong enough to handle him and he was destroying things ~ given the situation, I can accept this - we are in the middle of an ice storm and they are short staffed." You shouldn't accept this, because you had given directives to the school that she must stay away from him. He has been previously, repeatedly traumatised by her, he is likely to react badly to her mere presence (you've seen this yourself) and here she was, with her hands on your child! Why was it necessary for your child to be restrained? What went on before? I strongly suspect that if this were my child, and I found a teacher who I knew had it in for my child was actually in a room with my child with her hands on him, I'd start throwing things around myself. Starting with the teacher herself. That [unprintable] cow! I think the reason she is still at this school, is because she DOES have good history (you said before, she founded this school?) and they don't want to throw it all away for what they perceive to be a difficult child. HOWEVER - I think she has blotted her copybook well and truly; she's in fact upset the ink pot all over it, it's not just a blot. To say that in front of him - sheer spite, pure venom, highly inappropriate. Your poor kid - he is just a kid, he is a kid with problems you're still struggling to get identified, he needs his IEP in place and followed through with; YOU deserve better from this school, than to have this teacher in the same room as your son when you've asked for this to not happen. They have disrespected you and your child both, by not keeping this creep away from your son. So they're short-handed? HOW short-handed? Even if she was the only teacher in the school, she shouldn't have laid hands on him. Some kids benefit form holding; some do not. For some kids, it will set them off much worse. This teacher has a history of escalating things with difficult child. You need to find out what happened before, because I strongly suspect she has done it again - escalated things with difficult child, purely to trigger such a situation so she can justify throwing your son out. If he goes, then so do all the disciplinary issues because she then is vindicated. That said, is it worth the continual struggle with this school, if it is taking its toll on him with no concession given (despite assurances)? I would keep fighting, even if you choose to send him elsewhere. Your child has been traumatised, they had been warned that this was not good and she was bad for him - they allowed this last incident to happen. I would put this one entirely on the school - their fault, completely. She should have stayed away from your son. If he grabbed the scissors and threatened to commit hari kari with them - she shouldn't go near him, she should pick up the phone and call an ambulance, after someone ELSE has told her, because she shouldn't even be near enough to him to know what has happened. Oooh, she makes me so angry! Marg [/QUOTE]
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