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We are tired here...behavioral plans harder than the behavior!
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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 582898" data-attributes="member: 15799"><p>One thing that works well for difficult child 1 is immediate rewards. The idea of working toward a big reward was too much and losing points or tokens was a personal blow to his ego. Set realistic and specific things that HAVE to be done and reward immediately withagreed upon things: 20 minutes computer time, 20 minutes video game time, rent a movie HE wants, something "special" (not food). We have used money with specific amounts tied to specific activities or chores. We made a list of things he wanted (that I was not going to buy) and how much they were. The key was to NEVER take money away for "wrong" things. Also, if the reward was tied to behavior, it had to be specific behavior for specific time periods or events to earn the reward. Say, going to the store without asking for something not on the list or brushing teeth without a single complaint of any kind. Simple, short-term, specific things. It was a place to start. When difficult child 1 started getting bored with one "reward" or didn't want that any more, we (he and I) would agree on another kind of reward. </p><p></p><p>Have you looked at medications possibly causing the behavior? My difficult child 1 did not do well at all on 2 different medications from two different classes at 2 different times, one over a period of 4 months. Just a thought.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 582898, member: 15799"] One thing that works well for difficult child 1 is immediate rewards. The idea of working toward a big reward was too much and losing points or tokens was a personal blow to his ego. Set realistic and specific things that HAVE to be done and reward immediately withagreed upon things: 20 minutes computer time, 20 minutes video game time, rent a movie HE wants, something "special" (not food). We have used money with specific amounts tied to specific activities or chores. We made a list of things he wanted (that I was not going to buy) and how much they were. The key was to NEVER take money away for "wrong" things. Also, if the reward was tied to behavior, it had to be specific behavior for specific time periods or events to earn the reward. Say, going to the store without asking for something not on the list or brushing teeth without a single complaint of any kind. Simple, short-term, specific things. It was a place to start. When difficult child 1 started getting bored with one "reward" or didn't want that any more, we (he and I) would agree on another kind of reward. Have you looked at medications possibly causing the behavior? My difficult child 1 did not do well at all on 2 different medications from two different classes at 2 different times, one over a period of 4 months. Just a thought. [/QUOTE]
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