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We are tired here...behavioral plans harder than the behavior!
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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 583067" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Can you figure out what his payoff is? Everyone does something because it pays off for them. We go to work because we get a pay check. We volunteer because we get a good feeling. Kids are the same way. Do they behave a certain way because they only get attention when they act badly? </p><p></p><p>Looking back with my youngest son from what I know now, I think I would have resorted to a form of a behavior chart that used actual money as the reward. I learned as he grew into an older teen that he was extremely motivated by money and I really think I might have been able to reach him if I used the rewards immediately. I had always done the old paying for grades on report cards but that never worked. He couldnt wait. I think if I paid him daily for behaviors I wanted and appropriate grades that day...say a buck a day...and if he got 3 out of 5 bucks the first several weeks/months...he got a bonus on Fridays, I think that would have worked. After all, we kept telling him school was his job. Yeah it would have been a bit expensive but there was another mom on here who paid her kids dimes for doing certain things around the house. Same thing in my book. </p><p></p><p>Of course its too late for mine.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 583067, member: 1514"] Can you figure out what his payoff is? Everyone does something because it pays off for them. We go to work because we get a pay check. We volunteer because we get a good feeling. Kids are the same way. Do they behave a certain way because they only get attention when they act badly? Looking back with my youngest son from what I know now, I think I would have resorted to a form of a behavior chart that used actual money as the reward. I learned as he grew into an older teen that he was extremely motivated by money and I really think I might have been able to reach him if I used the rewards immediately. I had always done the old paying for grades on report cards but that never worked. He couldnt wait. I think if I paid him daily for behaviors I wanted and appropriate grades that day...say a buck a day...and if he got 3 out of 5 bucks the first several weeks/months...he got a bonus on Fridays, I think that would have worked. After all, we kept telling him school was his job. Yeah it would have been a bit expensive but there was another mom on here who paid her kids dimes for doing certain things around the house. Same thing in my book. Of course its too late for mine. [/QUOTE]
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