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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 545046" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>This is not my area of experience, however, I've read your post a couple of times and my first (gut/heart) reaction is to do exactly what you state in your post....recommend to the court, major probation with drug testing, mandated going to school or at least job training and following rules at home. That sounds reasonable and you know her the best to be able to advocate for her in the system. </p><p></p><p>As a mother who has been on the same kind of ride as you, I let go and reconsidered quite a number of times, I don't think there is a right way or a wrong way, you have to live with your choice, you have to know you gave her everything you could. You are the only one who knows when to let go and let God. This may not be that moment when she is subject to a system which is not always just and certainly not always the right answer for a kid who is only 17.</p><p></p><p>I doubted myself a million times, I guess it's part of this odd landscape we find ourselves in, doubt is a human response to difficult circumstances. It really is one step at a time, each one offering new options, new evidence, new information, how you felt a week ago is now different, that's what makes this all so stressful, nothing is just right or wrong, good or bad, it's all subject to continual change and continuing scrutiny, it's exhausting and forces all the doubts to the surface, over and over again. </p><p></p><p>Has she returned home yet? How are you feeling today about all of it? I agree with what AG said, PRAY and write a detailed plan you can submit to the court which you can live with and provides her with the correct amount of personal responsibility. I so know how you feel, it's tough. I hope you've gleaned some clarity and that she's come home. I'm thinking about you and sending you hugs and prayers for the appropriate solution to reveal itself to you and SOON.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 545046, member: 13542"] This is not my area of experience, however, I've read your post a couple of times and my first (gut/heart) reaction is to do exactly what you state in your post....recommend to the court, major probation with drug testing, mandated going to school or at least job training and following rules at home. That sounds reasonable and you know her the best to be able to advocate for her in the system. As a mother who has been on the same kind of ride as you, I let go and reconsidered quite a number of times, I don't think there is a right way or a wrong way, you have to live with your choice, you have to know you gave her everything you could. You are the only one who knows when to let go and let God. This may not be that moment when she is subject to a system which is not always just and certainly not always the right answer for a kid who is only 17. I doubted myself a million times, I guess it's part of this odd landscape we find ourselves in, doubt is a human response to difficult circumstances. It really is one step at a time, each one offering new options, new evidence, new information, how you felt a week ago is now different, that's what makes this all so stressful, nothing is just right or wrong, good or bad, it's all subject to continual change and continuing scrutiny, it's exhausting and forces all the doubts to the surface, over and over again. Has she returned home yet? How are you feeling today about all of it? I agree with what AG said, PRAY and write a detailed plan you can submit to the court which you can live with and provides her with the correct amount of personal responsibility. I so know how you feel, it's tough. I hope you've gleaned some clarity and that she's come home. I'm thinking about you and sending you hugs and prayers for the appropriate solution to reveal itself to you and SOON. [/QUOTE]
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