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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 545090" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Geez, on top of all of it you have to worry about her and where she is, I'm sorry, I know how that feels too. I'll give you any feedback you want as I'm sure others more experienced will as well. These are all hard calls, I understand your dilemma, and since you're asking, if it were me, I would involve the therapist, it is about her and this is the justice system, this is serious stuff, she's still only 17. I would arm myself with all the ammo I could muster up to try to get her the appropriate kind of help as well as the appropriate consequence. As we all know, the courts don't always make decisions that are healthy for our kids. As AG mentioned, the therapist might be willing to write up a recommendation of his own which might then help enforce yours. The therapist may also be able to offer you feedback you haven't considered yet. </p><p></p><p>I'm sure you've hit these kinds of walls before, but if you haven't already considered it, you might explain to her that you are pulling out all the stops to support her, THIS time, but this is the final time, she will be 18 soon and any further trouble she finds herself in with the law, she is on her own. I don't know the whole background, but that may be an option. This last go around with my difficult child was the last one, I made that very clear. Of course mine is a grown woman and yours is still a teenager, so I'm not sure where that line gets drawn for you. You're doing a good job of gathering all the facts and thinking it all through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 545090, member: 13542"] Geez, on top of all of it you have to worry about her and where she is, I'm sorry, I know how that feels too. I'll give you any feedback you want as I'm sure others more experienced will as well. These are all hard calls, I understand your dilemma, and since you're asking, if it were me, I would involve the therapist, it is about her and this is the justice system, this is serious stuff, she's still only 17. I would arm myself with all the ammo I could muster up to try to get her the appropriate kind of help as well as the appropriate consequence. As we all know, the courts don't always make decisions that are healthy for our kids. As AG mentioned, the therapist might be willing to write up a recommendation of his own which might then help enforce yours. The therapist may also be able to offer you feedback you haven't considered yet. I'm sure you've hit these kinds of walls before, but if you haven't already considered it, you might explain to her that you are pulling out all the stops to support her, THIS time, but this is the final time, she will be 18 soon and any further trouble she finds herself in with the law, she is on her own. I don't know the whole background, but that may be an option. This last go around with my difficult child was the last one, I made that very clear. Of course mine is a grown woman and yours is still a teenager, so I'm not sure where that line gets drawn for you. You're doing a good job of gathering all the facts and thinking it all through. [/QUOTE]
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