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<blockquote data-quote="everywoman" data-source="post: 222527" data-attributes="member: 1436"><p>Bran---detachment is a way to live so that the anger and feelings of disappointment don't color your life. It allows you to continue living your life despite the choices she makes. Your daughter has made choices---they are her choices. She may have done so for a variety of reasons---mental illness or spite. Either way she has to suffer the consequences. You can only control your reactions to her choices. If you continue to react the way you are, you will continue to feed her choices. The way to truly detach is to train your mind not to react. You put the ball in her court. Last week my son made a stupid choice. He ended up with a broken nose and missed two days of work. I remained calm. I calmly told him my thoughts. I was unemotional. Did it hurt to see him bleeding and in pain---yes. But, if I allow him to know my feelings, he is one who will turn them on me and use them to manipulate me. Even if you are angry and hurt, you can't let them see that. When you react strongly, they will counter. Stop reacting. Stop letting her see what her actions do to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="everywoman, post: 222527, member: 1436"] Bran---detachment is a way to live so that the anger and feelings of disappointment don't color your life. It allows you to continue living your life despite the choices she makes. Your daughter has made choices---they are her choices. She may have done so for a variety of reasons---mental illness or spite. Either way she has to suffer the consequences. You can only control your reactions to her choices. If you continue to react the way you are, you will continue to feed her choices. The way to truly detach is to train your mind not to react. You put the ball in her court. Last week my son made a stupid choice. He ended up with a broken nose and missed two days of work. I remained calm. I calmly told him my thoughts. I was unemotional. Did it hurt to see him bleeding and in pain---yes. But, if I allow him to know my feelings, he is one who will turn them on me and use them to manipulate me. Even if you are angry and hurt, you can't let them see that. When you react strongly, they will counter. Stop reacting. Stop letting her see what her actions do to you. [/QUOTE]
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