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<blockquote data-quote="bran155" data-source="post: 222964"><p>I completely and totally understand how you feel!!! It would be easier if our children were just "bad" kids. That way we wouldn't feel so bad for them. They were dealt a very difficult hand in life and it's just not fair. Which makes detaching a whole lot harder. I can't tell you how many times I made a complete fool of myself at my daughters rtcs. All she would have to do to rope me in and manipulate me was call me with a sob story of how she was being mistreated and there I went!!! I have caused numerous scenes and cursed out numerous people in defense of my "poor child". Only to later find out that most of what she told me was a lie. She pulled the strings and I jumped, I was her puppet, she was my master. It is in our nature to nurture. We are mama bears protecting our cubs. We must realize that the world won't be as kind as we are. We must prepare them for society, who at large just do not have much empathy for the mentally ill. Those horses you speak of are in all of us. We are moms who love our children. Without those horses we would not be able to fight to get our children the help they need. We just need to learn how to tame the horses and utilize thier force only when necessary. Easier said than done, I know!!! </p><p></p><p>You should try to enjoy the peace while he is away. Take care of you. You so deserve it. He is where he needs to be right now. I know that dropping your kid off at some strange facility into the care of strangers is more than difficult. It is hard to trust that people will do the right thing. I am speaking from experience. I have had just as many sleepless nights while my daughter was away as I do when she is home. The anxiety is still there, it's just coming from a different perspective. You are still worrying, just about different stuff, is he safe, is he being treated right, is he making friends, is he eating, showering, is he sad, is he mad at you, does he hate you.....I could go on and on. Believe me I so understand. My daughter has been in 3 rtcs, two of which were out of state. Where the laws are different and it was very scary!!! </p><p></p><p>There has to be a light at the end of the tunnel, there just has to be. We must believe that. We must continue to have hope, even when things are at their worst. If we don't have hope - what do we have?</p><p></p><p>{{{HUGS}}} And thanks for always giving me support!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bran155, post: 222964"] I completely and totally understand how you feel!!! It would be easier if our children were just "bad" kids. That way we wouldn't feel so bad for them. They were dealt a very difficult hand in life and it's just not fair. Which makes detaching a whole lot harder. I can't tell you how many times I made a complete fool of myself at my daughters rtcs. All she would have to do to rope me in and manipulate me was call me with a sob story of how she was being mistreated and there I went!!! I have caused numerous scenes and cursed out numerous people in defense of my "poor child". Only to later find out that most of what she told me was a lie. She pulled the strings and I jumped, I was her puppet, she was my master. It is in our nature to nurture. We are mama bears protecting our cubs. We must realize that the world won't be as kind as we are. We must prepare them for society, who at large just do not have much empathy for the mentally ill. Those horses you speak of are in all of us. We are moms who love our children. Without those horses we would not be able to fight to get our children the help they need. We just need to learn how to tame the horses and utilize thier force only when necessary. Easier said than done, I know!!! You should try to enjoy the peace while he is away. Take care of you. You so deserve it. He is where he needs to be right now. I know that dropping your kid off at some strange facility into the care of strangers is more than difficult. It is hard to trust that people will do the right thing. I am speaking from experience. I have had just as many sleepless nights while my daughter was away as I do when she is home. The anxiety is still there, it's just coming from a different perspective. You are still worrying, just about different stuff, is he safe, is he being treated right, is he making friends, is he eating, showering, is he sad, is he mad at you, does he hate you.....I could go on and on. Believe me I so understand. My daughter has been in 3 rtcs, two of which were out of state. Where the laws are different and it was very scary!!! There has to be a light at the end of the tunnel, there just has to be. We must believe that. We must continue to have hope, even when things are at their worst. If we don't have hope - what do we have? {{{HUGS}}} And thanks for always giving me support!!! [/QUOTE]
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