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We offered to help - he declined, now what?
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<blockquote data-quote="xnmmi77" data-source="post: 745087" data-attributes="member: 23539"><p>Hi, new guy here. Our son is 30, he quit the job he had held for 4 years in the UC system in the Bay Area over the summer. He moved in with his newest girlfriend into her "apartment" which turned out to be in a building not unlike the one that became, sadly, The Ghost Ship tragedy. The girlfriend is unemployed and was when he moved in - the building, illegal for residency was red-tagged in October and they have been squatting in it since they have no place to go and no vehicle to move their stuff in. The power has been on, until now. He has been collecting unemployment, but that is nearing the end in the next few weeks.</p><p></p><p>We offered to drive up there and collect both of them and their things and bring them back here. He wants no part of being back here because of the ties he thinks he has to the bay area and he sees no positive outcome in coming back to the LA metro area - he is afraid that if he comes back down here, he will never get back up to where he wants to be - he will not come here to make a new start at a different chapter in life and has no intention of looking for work. He is not on drugs, and neither is the girlfriend, nor is he mentally or physically incapable of earning a middle income wage - he is simply choosing not to. He is suffering from some depression, clearly, but, he will not make the choice to better his situation.</p><p></p><p>What can we do? All we want is to have him and the girlfriend safe and secure with a roof over their heads and food on the table along with the basic comforts of life. We worry constantly now that the power will be turned off any day, if it isn't already - the only option for them is the street or to be split up into separate living shelters - she would abide that life - he, could not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="xnmmi77, post: 745087, member: 23539"] Hi, new guy here. Our son is 30, he quit the job he had held for 4 years in the UC system in the Bay Area over the summer. He moved in with his newest girlfriend into her "apartment" which turned out to be in a building not unlike the one that became, sadly, The Ghost Ship tragedy. The girlfriend is unemployed and was when he moved in - the building, illegal for residency was red-tagged in October and they have been squatting in it since they have no place to go and no vehicle to move their stuff in. The power has been on, until now. He has been collecting unemployment, but that is nearing the end in the next few weeks. We offered to drive up there and collect both of them and their things and bring them back here. He wants no part of being back here because of the ties he thinks he has to the bay area and he sees no positive outcome in coming back to the LA metro area - he is afraid that if he comes back down here, he will never get back up to where he wants to be - he will not come here to make a new start at a different chapter in life and has no intention of looking for work. He is not on drugs, and neither is the girlfriend, nor is he mentally or physically incapable of earning a middle income wage - he is simply choosing not to. He is suffering from some depression, clearly, but, he will not make the choice to better his situation. What can we do? All we want is to have him and the girlfriend safe and secure with a roof over their heads and food on the table along with the basic comforts of life. We worry constantly now that the power will be turned off any day, if it isn't already - the only option for them is the street or to be split up into separate living shelters - she would abide that life - he, could not. [/QUOTE]
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