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We offered to help - he declined, now what?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 745092" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. Sorry about the angst.</p><p></p><p>Your son is 30. That isnt young. You may not know the whole story. But you cant make these adults do anything.</p><p></p><p>We can control one person on earth and only one....us. There are no magic words to make this man, your son, accept your help. He may feel he is too old to live with you.</p><p></p><p>He is! Maybe its that, maybe something else. He doesnt seem to want to leave his city.</p><p></p><p>I personally would never let a grown child's girlfriend in my home but this isnt about me. We are all different. This is about your situation.</p><p></p><p>You made an offer to rescue them. They turned you down.</p><p></p><p>You cant be that young.</p><p></p><p>I am a big believer in living our own lives the best we can and not try to change our adult kids. Usually it doesnt work.</p><p></p><p>Try to be good to you and turn to healthy loved ones and friends and let your son live his own life, good or bad. He will do so anyway.</p><p></p><p> Please dont let this ruin your health, mental or physical. Your son will get his life together when HE wants to and is VERY capable of doing so without any help from you. He is smart!</p><p></p><p>If he cant abide his lifestyle, he can get a job and change it for the better. He is educated with a job resume. He can change things at any time.</p><p></p><p>Take care of YOU!</p><p></p><p>Love and ligjt! It will be okay.</p><p>.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 745092, member: 1550"] Hi. Sorry about the angst. Your son is 30. That isnt young. You may not know the whole story. But you cant make these adults do anything. We can control one person on earth and only one....us. There are no magic words to make this man, your son, accept your help. He may feel he is too old to live with you. He is! Maybe its that, maybe something else. He doesnt seem to want to leave his city. I personally would never let a grown child's girlfriend in my home but this isnt about me. We are all different. This is about your situation. You made an offer to rescue them. They turned you down. You cant be that young. I am a big believer in living our own lives the best we can and not try to change our adult kids. Usually it doesnt work. Try to be good to you and turn to healthy loved ones and friends and let your son live his own life, good or bad. He will do so anyway. Please dont let this ruin your health, mental or physical. Your son will get his life together when HE wants to and is VERY capable of doing so without any help from you. He is smart! If he cant abide his lifestyle, he can get a job and change it for the better. He is educated with a job resume. He can change things at any time. Take care of YOU! Love and ligjt! It will be okay. . [/QUOTE]
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