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We offered to help - he declined, now what?
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 745147" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Sadly some of our kids don’t want these things. Or they want other things more. The things that seem like no-brainers to us - comfort, safety, stability - just aren’t important to them. His life may look terrible to you, but it is what he has freely chosen. Many people with depression still choose otherwise. Some without depression prefer to live as your son and girlfriend have chosen to live. </p><p></p><p>The semi-homeless life two of mine have chosen to live looks so much harder to me than simply getting a job, paying bills, and following the basic expectations of society. Being homeless or semi homeless is hard work. You’re always starting from ground zero and paddling as fast as you can just to stay afloat another day. But they don’t see it the way I see it. And I can’t make them. </p><p></p><p>Your son and his girlfriend will make their own choices and figure out their own path. In my opinion the best you can do is love him, provide suggestions and guidance if he seems open to it, but otherwise accept that his life is in his hands. I know what he has chosen looks scary and unsafe to you. But you can’t make other choices for him. Only he can. I’m sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 745147, member: 23349"] Sadly some of our kids don’t want these things. Or they want other things more. The things that seem like no-brainers to us - comfort, safety, stability - just aren’t important to them. His life may look terrible to you, but it is what he has freely chosen. Many people with depression still choose otherwise. Some without depression prefer to live as your son and girlfriend have chosen to live. The semi-homeless life two of mine have chosen to live looks so much harder to me than simply getting a job, paying bills, and following the basic expectations of society. Being homeless or semi homeless is hard work. You’re always starting from ground zero and paddling as fast as you can just to stay afloat another day. But they don’t see it the way I see it. And I can’t make them. Your son and his girlfriend will make their own choices and figure out their own path. In my opinion the best you can do is love him, provide suggestions and guidance if he seems open to it, but otherwise accept that his life is in his hands. I know what he has chosen looks scary and unsafe to you. But you can’t make other choices for him. Only he can. I’m sorry. [/QUOTE]
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