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<blockquote data-quote="Eden" data-source="post: 213705" data-attributes="member: 6258"><p>Thanks, everyone, for the warm welcome and thank you for moving the post. Have been following this board for some time, but finally got the courage to jump in.</p><p> </p><p>This was a very calm morning actually compared to many others. I've been down a very long road with my difficult child. His odd showed up basically from birth (didn't sleep through the night til he was nearly 2, didn't potty train until about fifth grade, would never take naps at daycare plus disrupting others from taking theirs, threw chair through the wall at daycare, wouldn't do time outs, wouldn't do homework, failed two grades, constant arguments about everything with everyone in authority, lies about everything even when there's no need to lie, now drinks, smokes, blames others for everything, etc. etc. etc.). </p><p> </p><p>It's a long lonely road with ODD because lots of people don't think it exists and they just blame it on your parenting skills (or lack thereof). I even had a family counselor basically blame it on me .. then empower difficult child (who had completely bamboozled him and even convinced the therapist that he was 'abused') by telling difficult child that "confrontation is good; always confront people!" Ay yi yi. Just throw a match on a tanker of gasoline!</p><p> </p><p>I won't go into all the details. It's just really comforting to have this forum and to see I'm not alone. I have been to hell and back ... wishing I was dead ... even wishing my own child was dead (!) ... but I always suspected it was "just me." It's incredibly healing to know that's not the case. </p><p> </p><p>Things are a bit on the upswing now. I read an incredible book called "Stop Negotiating with your Teen by Janet Sasson Edgette and it's made a huge difference in my approach to difficult child. Only time will tell if this is a temporary respite, or real improvement. I'm always afraid to hope for more than just what's good today.</p><p> </p><p>Thanks againg for the support and for the gift of reading all your stories.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Eden, post: 213705, member: 6258"] Thanks, everyone, for the warm welcome and thank you for moving the post. Have been following this board for some time, but finally got the courage to jump in. This was a very calm morning actually compared to many others. I've been down a very long road with my difficult child. His odd showed up basically from birth (didn't sleep through the night til he was nearly 2, didn't potty train until about fifth grade, would never take naps at daycare plus disrupting others from taking theirs, threw chair through the wall at daycare, wouldn't do time outs, wouldn't do homework, failed two grades, constant arguments about everything with everyone in authority, lies about everything even when there's no need to lie, now drinks, smokes, blames others for everything, etc. etc. etc.). It's a long lonely road with ODD because lots of people don't think it exists and they just blame it on your parenting skills (or lack thereof). I even had a family counselor basically blame it on me .. then empower difficult child (who had completely bamboozled him and even convinced the therapist that he was 'abused') by telling difficult child that "confrontation is good; always confront people!" Ay yi yi. Just throw a match on a tanker of gasoline! I won't go into all the details. It's just really comforting to have this forum and to see I'm not alone. I have been to hell and back ... wishing I was dead ... even wishing my own child was dead (!) ... but I always suspected it was "just me." It's incredibly healing to know that's not the case. Things are a bit on the upswing now. I read an incredible book called "Stop Negotiating with your Teen by Janet Sasson Edgette and it's made a huge difference in my approach to difficult child. Only time will tell if this is a temporary respite, or real improvement. I'm always afraid to hope for more than just what's good today. Thanks againg for the support and for the gift of reading all your stories. [/QUOTE]
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