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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 99237" data-attributes="member: 1545"><p>Linda ~ I blog a lot. Here is a blog I wrote a couple of years ago about my wedding ring. I too am obviously very attached for the following reasons:</p><p></p><p> <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> <em><span style="color: #000099">I looked down at my wedding ring yesterday to discover the band was broken in half. Promptly took it to the jewelers. They informed me that not only was the band broken, the 4 prongs that hold my diamond in place were GONE! The jeweler was not sure what was keeping my diamond in place (I think it was a combination of lotion, cookie dough and dog hair ... at any rate ...) The estimate to fix it up good as new? $250.00. "Holy Moly" I said. I don't think we paid that much for the ring 22 years ago. But, sentimentality ruled and I said "Fix it". </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>So, I began thinking on the drive home. Just as that ring symbolized our union, our faithfulness and commitment to each other almost 22 years ago, so did the wear and tear symbolize something. What was it that actually led the gold to break? Was it some huge catastrophic event? Nope. I did not hit it with a hammer. It was not caught in a vise. I didn't smash it in a door. Nope. It was just the every day nitty gritty wear and tear that wore it too thin. Isn't that so like life? It's the little nit-picky insidious every day sameness that wears on our marriage. Until, if we're not careful ... it's broken. And the prongs? Same with them. Just your every day wear and tear that wore them down to nothing. I began to think about the 4 most important things (like the prongs that held my diamond) in our marriage that keep our vows intact and in place. 1.) Respect. Not just the respect that comes out of my mouth, but keeping my heart respectful ... even when I'm angry or bitter or resentful. Respecting my husband in the deep places that only God and I can see. 2.) Communication. OK I know this is way over stated. Like ad-nauseam overstated. But, it is so true. We need to be real. We need to be vulnerable. We need to talk about the deep places of our hearts. 3.) Time. Oh this one is tough. I don't mean I'm doing dishes, and he's reading the paper kind of time. Co-habitating in the same space kind of time. Nope. I mean time where the only distraction for me is him, and visa-versa. We are falling woefully short in this area. 4.) Physical intimacy. Yes SEX. What a gift lovemaking is. We need to make this a priority. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>So there you have it. My thoughts about my wedding ring. Because, since it has been off my finger, I realize how much I miss it. I feel undressed without it. If it is that much apart of me... if I miss it that much ... I can't even begin to imagine life without marriage. </span> </div></div> </em></p><p><em></em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 99237, member: 1545"] Linda ~ I blog a lot. Here is a blog I wrote a couple of years ago about my wedding ring. I too am obviously very attached for the following reasons: <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> [i]<span style="color: #000099">I looked down at my wedding ring yesterday to discover the band was broken in half. Promptly took it to the jewelers. They informed me that not only was the band broken, the 4 prongs that hold my diamond in place were GONE! The jeweler was not sure what was keeping my diamond in place (I think it was a combination of lotion, cookie dough and dog hair ... at any rate ...) The estimate to fix it up good as new? $250.00. "Holy Moly" I said. I don't think we paid that much for the ring 22 years ago. But, sentimentality ruled and I said "Fix it". So, I began thinking on the drive home. Just as that ring symbolized our union, our faithfulness and commitment to each other almost 22 years ago, so did the wear and tear symbolize something. What was it that actually led the gold to break? Was it some huge catastrophic event? Nope. I did not hit it with a hammer. It was not caught in a vise. I didn't smash it in a door. Nope. It was just the every day nitty gritty wear and tear that wore it too thin. Isn't that so like life? It's the little nit-picky insidious every day sameness that wears on our marriage. Until, if we're not careful ... it's broken. And the prongs? Same with them. Just your every day wear and tear that wore them down to nothing. I began to think about the 4 most important things (like the prongs that held my diamond) in our marriage that keep our vows intact and in place. 1.) Respect. Not just the respect that comes out of my mouth, but keeping my heart respectful ... even when I'm angry or bitter or resentful. Respecting my husband in the deep places that only God and I can see. 2.) Communication. OK I know this is way over stated. Like ad-nauseam overstated. But, it is so true. We need to be real. We need to be vulnerable. We need to talk about the deep places of our hearts. 3.) Time. Oh this one is tough. I don't mean I'm doing dishes, and he's reading the paper kind of time. Co-habitating in the same space kind of time. Nope. I mean time where the only distraction for me is him, and visa-versa. We are falling woefully short in this area. 4.) Physical intimacy. Yes SEX. What a gift lovemaking is. We need to make this a priority. So there you have it. My thoughts about my wedding ring. Because, since it has been off my finger, I realize how much I miss it. I feel undressed without it. If it is that much apart of me... if I miss it that much ... I can't even begin to imagine life without marriage. </span> </div></div> [/i] [/QUOTE]
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