Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Wee has to go to family court
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 389376" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Shari, in my opinion this is just another reason why as a whole our children are ALL being done a huge disservice by our school system. I would LOVE to know what exactly the principal thinks she will accomplish by going this way with a disabled third grader?? surely she doesn't think you will just go away or that Wee will magically change and become normally abled? Who knows. maybe she also believes she can find real pokemon if she goes to Japan. Bout the same odds for either of those things to happen.</p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry that htis has happened. PLEASE do NOT go into court without a lawyer to protect Wee's interests. If you have to take out a loan or sell something to pay for it, it will be woth it. You CANNOT fight a legal battle in family court against the schools unless you have GOOD representation. Wee could end up with some nasty marks on his record that could haunt him through the rest of his life. Given Wee's diagnosis's, have you applied for disability for him? Would that give him other legal protections that the courts would look at? I know that some children are given disabled status and it does help in some situations. If nothing else it would prove to the court that he truly IS disabled and that they are truly expecting him to do things that he simply is not capable of doing.</p><p> </p><p>Heck, his current behavior should prove that you knew what you were talking about when you asked for these services YEARS ago. It should also show that if they had handled him appropriately there would have been NO real problems, that the adults CAUSED the behavior by putting him into situation that he simply is not equipped to handle. in my opinion his behavior is as much the adults' fault as a car crash would be if they put him behind the wheel of a car. Know what I mean???</p><p> </p><p>If you can, go back through your posts and emails and create a timeline showing all of the various events and problems, what you suggested as remedies and prevention and interventions for him, and what they gave him instead. I think it might be helpful if you showed that schedule wehre they had nine transitions for him before lunch, or something equally idiotic. You posted it in the beginning of the school year as they "tried" to set things up with-o actually giving him an aide. </p><p> </p><p>MAke SURE you document that first restraint where the guy was untrained. There is a 2yr statute of limitations on most charges, so you can still file assault charges against him and the school. If they drop ALL the legal stuff you can also, but if they insist on bringing charges, then YOU can insist on it also. Seems rather petty and "tit for tat" but sometimes you simply need leverage to get small minded people to behave appropriately. </p><p> </p><p>I hope and pray that the judge can see a small child with enormous handicaps and a mom who is willing to fight to get what he needs from a two-faced, uncaring school that really doesn't want him there and doesn't want to give him ANY accommodations. Lets all send hopes and prayers and good thoughts that the judge takes the SCHOOL and PRINCIPAL and SUPERINTENDENT to task, gives THEM sanctions, and demands that they give Wee whatever you and his docs say or they spend tim ein jail until they arrange such accommodations. Or at least that the judge tells the school to stop being such stupid idiots and wasting the courts time and abusing Wee and you.</p><p> </p><p>((((((((((hugs))))))))))</p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry. in my opinion this principal needs to be given a taste of her own medicine. i wonder what would happen if we suddenly demanded seh speak only in swahili, read only bengali, use her non-dominant hand for everything and perform every single task that a nuclear physicist would do flawlessly. I bet it would be about as reasonable a set of expectations as her expectations for Wee are. </p><p> </p><p>Would it help Wee if we sent him cards to cheer him on? Wrote simple letters to him? Something to help him feel that there are people who like him and are proud of him because we KNOW how hard he works and how special and wonderful he is?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 389376, member: 1233"] Shari, in my opinion this is just another reason why as a whole our children are ALL being done a huge disservice by our school system. I would LOVE to know what exactly the principal thinks she will accomplish by going this way with a disabled third grader?? surely she doesn't think you will just go away or that Wee will magically change and become normally abled? Who knows. maybe she also believes she can find real pokemon if she goes to Japan. Bout the same odds for either of those things to happen. I am so sorry that htis has happened. PLEASE do NOT go into court without a lawyer to protect Wee's interests. If you have to take out a loan or sell something to pay for it, it will be woth it. You CANNOT fight a legal battle in family court against the schools unless you have GOOD representation. Wee could end up with some nasty marks on his record that could haunt him through the rest of his life. Given Wee's diagnosis's, have you applied for disability for him? Would that give him other legal protections that the courts would look at? I know that some children are given disabled status and it does help in some situations. If nothing else it would prove to the court that he truly IS disabled and that they are truly expecting him to do things that he simply is not capable of doing. Heck, his current behavior should prove that you knew what you were talking about when you asked for these services YEARS ago. It should also show that if they had handled him appropriately there would have been NO real problems, that the adults CAUSED the behavior by putting him into situation that he simply is not equipped to handle. in my opinion his behavior is as much the adults' fault as a car crash would be if they put him behind the wheel of a car. Know what I mean??? If you can, go back through your posts and emails and create a timeline showing all of the various events and problems, what you suggested as remedies and prevention and interventions for him, and what they gave him instead. I think it might be helpful if you showed that schedule wehre they had nine transitions for him before lunch, or something equally idiotic. You posted it in the beginning of the school year as they "tried" to set things up with-o actually giving him an aide. MAke SURE you document that first restraint where the guy was untrained. There is a 2yr statute of limitations on most charges, so you can still file assault charges against him and the school. If they drop ALL the legal stuff you can also, but if they insist on bringing charges, then YOU can insist on it also. Seems rather petty and "tit for tat" but sometimes you simply need leverage to get small minded people to behave appropriately. I hope and pray that the judge can see a small child with enormous handicaps and a mom who is willing to fight to get what he needs from a two-faced, uncaring school that really doesn't want him there and doesn't want to give him ANY accommodations. Lets all send hopes and prayers and good thoughts that the judge takes the SCHOOL and PRINCIPAL and SUPERINTENDENT to task, gives THEM sanctions, and demands that they give Wee whatever you and his docs say or they spend tim ein jail until they arrange such accommodations. Or at least that the judge tells the school to stop being such stupid idiots and wasting the courts time and abusing Wee and you. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) I am so sorry. in my opinion this principal needs to be given a taste of her own medicine. i wonder what would happen if we suddenly demanded seh speak only in swahili, read only bengali, use her non-dominant hand for everything and perform every single task that a nuclear physicist would do flawlessly. I bet it would be about as reasonable a set of expectations as her expectations for Wee are. Would it help Wee if we sent him cards to cheer him on? Wrote simple letters to him? Something to help him feel that there are people who like him and are proud of him because we KNOW how hard he works and how special and wonderful he is? [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Wee has to go to family court
Top