Only 4 days in the first week of school, and I am already feeling overwhelmed. I just do not understand. Doesn't difficult child know what this does to both myself and husband? He knows how hard the last year was...why??? With the first email on Thursday about his refusal to do DOL..I talked with him and reminded him that he would be moved to the other class if he needed help. To stay where he is he must keep up with his work, as he promised. Friday evening he woke me up to ask if he could go to a friends house, it was his birthday. I asked about school, he said he had a good day, no trouble and he "even did his DOL". So, since I know this boy, I said it was ok with me. Now, last year it was standard policy at the school that progress reports went home every other Wednesday. I had it set up for every Wednesday to keep up on his missing work. After the email on Thursday, I sent an email to each one of his teachers. I asked if it would be possible to meet with them, I asked them to notify me if there are any problems with difficult child. I asked them if possible to have a progress report every Wednesday so I could keep current with difficult child's progress. Each one of his teachers replied, with the same answer: Not available after school, they leave as soon as school gets out. They do not send home progress reports. So..I feel even worse. Then I recieve an email from his English teacher. She says for two days in a row she had to give him a temporary lanyard and he must "find" his lanyard and ID as it is mandatory he wear it. (he hasn't worn his lanyard and ID for two years..for some reason he thinks that rule does not apply to him. I have bought him many each year, but he keeps "losing" them.) He takes his lanyard/ID each morning. Brings it home each evening. Don't know what he is doing with it or what he is telling the teachers. She also said he had a poem to write over the weekend, rough draft and final copy due on Monday. (rough draft WAS due on Friday) She had to give him a second copy of the directions. He is so disorganized. Every year same crap. Loses absolutely everything. Usually takes more than 4 days for these things to happen. Last year it took a semester. Thing is does he not think this is wrong? He seems in a good mood, when I ask about homework he quickly replies he did it. I ask if he had gotten into any trouble, quickly replies "nope". As if he honestly believes this is OK. It is NOT OK. I didn't get the email until I got to work at midnight, so he is at his friends. I just cannot deal with this from an 8th grader. When I spoke to him Friday morning about moving to the other class where there is more help, he cried. So, what's he do...no lanyard/ID, no directions, no rough draft. That is just ONE class. Replies from the other teachers came prior to school on Friday. I asked if he is taking his folders/supplies to class. he says yep. I highly doubt that. I bet after only 4 days if I opened his locker everything would fall out. I looked online at schoolnotes - Thursday early AM. Math book must be covered by Friday and sylabus's signed. (didn't know what that was) i reminded difficult child before school to take these items home Thursday night. Reminded husband when he picked him up that he must have these things. Well you guessed it, he didn't. He brought the WRONG book. I am totally stressed already. 176 days to go.