I'm gonna try to make this short. I go to a very tiny website for people with a certain health condition. NOT HERE. Very small and private. I actually didn't want to join, but a woman I "met" from a larger site asked me to join. She is about 8 or nine years older than myself more or less....Im not really sure. At first I didn't join, because I was too busy, but then I did, because I had more free time. In many ways she is so very wise...lots of interesting life experiences and smart, etc. But some things are tough for her like cutting and pasting on the computer...but hey, I have my technological issues as well. She doesn't have kids, but has some adult step kids. She seems intimidated by her husband, but we don't discuss this. We email (ed) privately and have for years. Once, maybe twice I referred to her as like a mom or older sister. This is because my mom died at age 49and and although I didn't have a sister, I had a close cousin and she died young too and she was like a sis.mto me, they are forever youngish in my head...and both were super smart. I'm sure I only said this once or twice and she did not reply. I didn't detect anything, but in retrospect, I think it was a silly thing to say. on the little, very small website, she posted a separate thread about a friend of a friend who "always" refers to her as a mother figure and even though this friend has told her not told this, she continues to do it....it was all made up and weird and convoluted. She just had a relatively big b-day and maybe ???there were issues related to it....but I found out this fake story was all about ME. People responded that her "friend" should simply tell her other friend the truth...blah blah blah. I thought there was a small chance it might be about me even though facts were convoluted/incorrect and wrote her a super nice apologetic email, not even mentioning how weird that was (the fake post) or the errors...and she was mean and "short" with me in her response. She never told me she didn't like it and I never said it repeatedly, etc. i suspect one gal on this little site figured out it was about me and now thinks I'm this mean woman...but I can't speak about it because .....well it would just be more stupidity. I'm shocked that a person I have sort of known for perhaps five years would not have the xxxxxx to just nicely tell me what is bothering her instead of making up some crazy story and run the risk of others guessing it could be about me andmfeedingmthem wrong info., etc. passive aggressive? Major avoidance? I think both!!!!!! I apologize for saying this...I DO NOT MEAN TO BE UnpNKIND to anyone here, but in reality, you don't truly know someone unless you have met them in person, met some of their friends, seen them under stress, etc. online only tells some of a story. we are fortunate that we have each other on this site...I DO understand this. But because of certain possibilities, anonymity is very likely best. this was such a weird experience for me. Can't believe she just didn't pick up the phone and tell me she was sensitive about me jokingly referring to her being like a mom or big sister...once. i certainly didn't mean it to be hurtful and when I realized it was,I apologized immediately!AND it was a very sincere, kind apology. But, the fake thread and the mean reply to my apology made it so much worse. Does this make sense? WEIRD. But...I guess we all are a bit weird sometimes? LOL!thoughts? im just shocked that I thought I kinda knew this person and she would flip out about something, change the facts, create a fake thread, not just talk with me about it, be mean to me when I offered a sincere apology...all out of the blue. ps hopes this makes sense...I have super bad cold/maybe flu. Yuck!