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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 495286" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Welcome, Jessie. So sorry for what you are going through.</p><p>Yes, there is a huge hereditary component.</p><p>Yes, parenting techniques, therapy and medications help.</p><p>However, you've got your hands full, dealing with-your ex and his illnesses, and your son, too.</p><p>When your son is calm, try to talk to him about his dad and how it hurts you to see him rage, and that somehow, you think he loves him, deep down but can't show it. Also, be sure to tell him that you love him, because with-all the issues going on, he will gather only the obvious info and assume that everyone is out to get him. </p><p>Meanwhile, I would consider changing his school to one for autism, or getting him an IEP or 504 or whatever you can get for his age.</p><p>I would also switch doctors. Get a neuropsyc, and call around for a therapist skilled in treating autism. It makes a huge difference. Don't ask the receptionist if the dr is willing, ask her if s/he has experience.</p><p>Other than that, we have have had good luck with-imiprimene, clonidine and Adderall. However, if your son has bipolar <em>and </em>autism, the Adderall could make it worse. So many things to think about!</p><p>Also, have you considered cutting out gluten and milk to help him calm down? Have you had him tested for celiac disease? That could be an issue with-the pooping. (Poop issues are common with-these kids, by the way, which may or may not make you feel better.)</p><p>I would also sloowwww down his transitions. When it's time to go in the car, give him time to prepare. I use the 30 min., 15 min, 10 and 5 min warnings (in a nice voice). It works for "regular" kids, too. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p>If you find that the warnings ramp him up instead, you may want to offer bringing along whatever he's in the middle of. My son didn't want to discontinue certain activities, and I cannot begin to tell you the odd stuff we ended up with in the car, just to get him in there, lol!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 495286, member: 3419"] Welcome, Jessie. So sorry for what you are going through. Yes, there is a huge hereditary component. Yes, parenting techniques, therapy and medications help. However, you've got your hands full, dealing with-your ex and his illnesses, and your son, too. When your son is calm, try to talk to him about his dad and how it hurts you to see him rage, and that somehow, you think he loves him, deep down but can't show it. Also, be sure to tell him that you love him, because with-all the issues going on, he will gather only the obvious info and assume that everyone is out to get him. Meanwhile, I would consider changing his school to one for autism, or getting him an IEP or 504 or whatever you can get for his age. I would also switch doctors. Get a neuropsyc, and call around for a therapist skilled in treating autism. It makes a huge difference. Don't ask the receptionist if the dr is willing, ask her if s/he has experience. Other than that, we have have had good luck with-imiprimene, clonidine and Adderall. However, if your son has bipolar [I]and [/I]autism, the Adderall could make it worse. So many things to think about! Also, have you considered cutting out gluten and milk to help him calm down? Have you had him tested for celiac disease? That could be an issue with-the pooping. (Poop issues are common with-these kids, by the way, which may or may not make you feel better.) I would also sloowwww down his transitions. When it's time to go in the car, give him time to prepare. I use the 30 min., 15 min, 10 and 5 min warnings (in a nice voice). It works for "regular" kids, too. :) If you find that the warnings ramp him up instead, you may want to offer bringing along whatever he's in the middle of. My son didn't want to discontinue certain activities, and I cannot begin to tell you the odd stuff we ended up with in the car, just to get him in there, lol! [/QUOTE]
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