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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 439104" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Not really. I tend not to ask questions like that at all, since it puts everyone in an awkward position. difficult child gets upset when I believe other family members but not him, and no one else needs to put up with the drama. Rather than asking "Did you eat the nuts?" or even "Who ate the nuts?" I would either look for some tangible evidence that I could use (e.g. empty nut container hidden in difficult child's bag, or salt dust on his fingers and around his mouth), or set up the situation differently.</p><p></p><p>It's a matter of asking the right questions: Do you really need to know who ate the nuts? Or is it that difficult child is eating something he shouldn't, or at a time when he shouldn't.</p><p></p><p>When difficult child still lived at home, we either kept things he wasn't to have under lock and key, or we didn't keep them in the house at all. That way, if he had them he either broke into the supply or got them from outside. Either way it was against the rules and he got consequences. And we didn't have to rely on trying to get the truth out of him in any case.</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 439104, member: 3907"] Not really. I tend not to ask questions like that at all, since it puts everyone in an awkward position. difficult child gets upset when I believe other family members but not him, and no one else needs to put up with the drama. Rather than asking "Did you eat the nuts?" or even "Who ate the nuts?" I would either look for some tangible evidence that I could use (e.g. empty nut container hidden in difficult child's bag, or salt dust on his fingers and around his mouth), or set up the situation differently. It's a matter of asking the right questions: Do you really need to know who ate the nuts? Or is it that difficult child is eating something he shouldn't, or at a time when he shouldn't. When difficult child still lived at home, we either kept things he wasn't to have under lock and key, or we didn't keep them in the house at all. That way, if he had them he either broke into the supply or got them from outside. Either way it was against the rules and he got consequences. And we didn't have to rely on trying to get the truth out of him in any case. Trinity [/QUOTE]
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