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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 744259" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Laura,</p><p></p><p>I think this is just another way your son is trying to manipulate you. Your story is similar to mine. My son has blamed me for years that all his trouble started when I called the police on him. Gee, which time, the times he ran away, the times I found pot in his room, the time he stole $3000 from me..................</p><p>This is what they do. They blame us because otherwise they have to own it for what it is, their own poor choices and if they do that, they also have to own all the times we told them "if you don't start making better choices your life will be a mess", they will have to admit "my parents were right". </p><p>This can happen but it takes a lot of growing up on their part. It takes them letting go of their arrogance and becoming humble.</p><p></p><p>I have no doubt that your son will reach out to you again. It may be a while but if he's anything like mine, he will. My son and I have gone many months without communicating. The longest was just over a year.</p><p></p><p>What your son did was very hurtful. I've been on the receiving end of some of the most hateful, vial words from my son. It hurts, it makes us angry but we cannot let it fester inside of us. There's an old saying "holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die". </p><p>It's okay to be angry but not to the point it starts to control you. Don't ever give your son that kind of power. Don't ever let your son hold your emotions hostage.</p><p></p><p>Be good to yourself Laura. I think you deserve a spa day!</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 744259, member: 18516"] Hi Laura, I think this is just another way your son is trying to manipulate you. Your story is similar to mine. My son has blamed me for years that all his trouble started when I called the police on him. Gee, which time, the times he ran away, the times I found pot in his room, the time he stole $3000 from me.................. This is what they do. They blame us because otherwise they have to own it for what it is, their own poor choices and if they do that, they also have to own all the times we told them "if you don't start making better choices your life will be a mess", they will have to admit "my parents were right". This can happen but it takes a lot of growing up on their part. It takes them letting go of their arrogance and becoming humble. I have no doubt that your son will reach out to you again. It may be a while but if he's anything like mine, he will. My son and I have gone many months without communicating. The longest was just over a year. What your son did was very hurtful. I've been on the receiving end of some of the most hateful, vial words from my son. It hurts, it makes us angry but we cannot let it fester inside of us. There's an old saying "holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die". It's okay to be angry but not to the point it starts to control you. Don't ever give your son that kind of power. Don't ever let your son hold your emotions hostage. Be good to yourself Laura. I think you deserve a spa day! ((HUGS)) to you. [/QUOTE]
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