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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 744306" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>Laura, I feel your pain. My son used to call over and over--he has impulse and anxiety issues--and I finally quit answering. Sometimes it was a real situation and sometimes it was just the mood he was in. All I was doing was making myself crazy by picking up the phone. </p><p>After years, I discovered that he was, indeed resilient. He did not react the way I would have, but he found his own path. Over and over.</p><p>I read through the responses here before I posted, because, not knowing you or your history, I guessed that your son would be back when he needed something. That's the way my son was. But I didn't want to sound snotty or to hurt you. Then I saw that others here pretty much said that ... so I will say, for the record, my guess is that he will be back. Of course, you will guess and torture yourself, wondering why he called tonight. Try not to. Really. It is VERY hard work. </p><p>At some point, when you are ready, not when HE is ready, speak to him. Not before then. Yes, he is sick. Yes, he needs help. Just because you don't answer every call does not mean you don't love him. You have proven your love and foresight (a trust! what a plan) and he is not ready to meet you halfway. </p><p>Have faith, somehow, that it will happen. And if it doesn't, know that you did your best. We all do our best. </p><p>I have walked a similar path. No idea where my son was, who he was with, whether he was freezing and homeless or indoors and high ... or alive. It is pure torture. </p><p>That's why this board is here. Don't second-guess yourself. It is time to take care of yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 744306, member: 3419"] Laura, I feel your pain. My son used to call over and over--he has impulse and anxiety issues--and I finally quit answering. Sometimes it was a real situation and sometimes it was just the mood he was in. All I was doing was making myself crazy by picking up the phone. After years, I discovered that he was, indeed resilient. He did not react the way I would have, but he found his own path. Over and over. I read through the responses here before I posted, because, not knowing you or your history, I guessed that your son would be back when he needed something. That's the way my son was. But I didn't want to sound snotty or to hurt you. Then I saw that others here pretty much said that ... so I will say, for the record, my guess is that he will be back. Of course, you will guess and torture yourself, wondering why he called tonight. Try not to. Really. It is VERY hard work. At some point, when you are ready, not when HE is ready, speak to him. Not before then. Yes, he is sick. Yes, he needs help. Just because you don't answer every call does not mean you don't love him. You have proven your love and foresight (a trust! what a plan) and he is not ready to meet you halfway. Have faith, somehow, that it will happen. And if it doesn't, know that you did your best. We all do our best. I have walked a similar path. No idea where my son was, who he was with, whether he was freezing and homeless or indoors and high ... or alive. It is pure torture. That's why this board is here. Don't second-guess yourself. It is time to take care of yourself. [/QUOTE]
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