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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 584443" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>hey, sorry it took me so long to get back here. My laptop keyboard is failing and I have to use a plug in one to type so its a bit of a pain. Cant wait until I can replace this thing! </p><p></p><p>I have to talk to Cory over the phone because he is in TX but I have done that and I have come to the conclusion that the only collusion with Tony was on the phone. As far as him taking the stuff, I am not buying him suddenly going on a decorating gig. I have a sinking feeling he thought the stuff could be sold to one of those places that buy silver but he found out differently. All this happened at a time when they were broke as heck. Or Mandy did it and he is covering for her. Either is possible. This is stuff that would go to him at some time in the future but he isnt in a position that I think is stable enough right now. I found that out with Jamie years ago. Im not passing down the family jewels until they are my age! They wont appreciate them until then. I wouldnt have appreciated what I have at Cory's age and I know it. And its true I dont use it, heck I dont even show it because of having so many people and kids in and out of my house. </p><p></p><p>Now about the sugar. Tony found the sugar jar on the shelf in the laundry room. He is "suspecting" that I took the sugar and hid it there because I blamed Buck for stealing my stuff. I dont think this makes a lick of sense for so many reasons. Number one...I didnt do it. Number two, I can hardly reach that shelf with nothing in my hands which is why I dont use it for anything even laundry soap much less a fairly heavy jar of sugar. Number three, if I wanted to steal the sugar I have a huge bedroom I could have stashed it in, including a closet we dont use which has several boxes in front of it at the moment...or it could be in those boxes! Or even better, I could have stuck it in my car and taken it off and threw it away and it would never have been found. </p><p></p><p>To me it makes more sense that either Buck accidentally stuck it there when he was cleaning up in the kitchen. He puts things in the oddest places. Or, he put it there on purpose after making a big stink about the sugar being gone to everyone so that he could cause a fuss in the house. What else could he say was gone but something he wants? Something Tony knew was just there. We had just had a to do in the house because I wouldnt buy any sugar until Buck used up the stevia or one of those other type things that he had told me he wanted to try but then never even touched. Once he used it up, I bought sugar again. See, he is diabetic and I asked him if he wanted us to get that for him so he could have that instead of using actual sugar. I was being nice. When he never even touched it, I got mad. The stuff isnt cheap and he uses a lot of sugar. Much more than tony and I. So I said he was using the stuff I bought before we bought anymore sugar. I didnt think that was asking too much. But evidently Tony thinks that was enough for me to hold sugar hostage. Nope, especially since the bag of sugar that got gone was a bag that I bought anyway. And I bought the jar. I could understand if it was something Buck owned but it was ours. </p><p></p><p>After having a very heated argument with Tony, I have decided to give it until Buck gets the letter from Social Security about his disability decision. They have 4 months to get that first decision to him. With luck it wont take that long. If he is approved, then he can get out. If he is not approved then Tony is going to have to figure something else out because I am not going to have him here for the duration of the appeals process. That can take years. There is no way I will do that. He will simply have to find some sort of work and get a place to live. The 4 months will be in May. I am going to have Tony tell Buck he has to be out by June 1st so he has to find work if he hasnt heard from disability by April 30th. There is one thing that makes me think that disability may be going to approve him on the first try. They have not sent him to any of their doctors at all. This is not normal. But one of the things I found out going through my disability applications was that one of the easiest disability applications to get was for a construction worker with nothing more than a HS diploma and over age 50. They dont consider them very able to be retrained. And most are completely broken down physically. I do think Buck needs to call social security and ask about his application though since he hasnt heard anything in a month or so since he got the letter saying he didnt qualify for regular SSDI which I knew he wouldnt based on his work history. He simply hasnt worked enough in the last 10 quarters. Thats sad to me. I have no clue how he has supported himself and he just shrugs. Obviously mooching off people. </p><p></p><p>I am just going to count down days. I do want him to get food stamps though to contribute to the household. He claims he applied the same day he went down to talk to social security which would have been no later than the first week of February. I cant swear to the date and he cant find the paperwork. I do know the date I filled out his application online but I dont know when his appointment was although I know it was the same week. I could figure it out. It has been well over the 30 days they have to complete the food stamp application though and so far he hasnt gotten any letters saying he has been approved or denied. He says that they told him that this county was putting in a new computer system and it would take longer for all applications to be processed. I am not buying that. It is a federal law that if you come in with no income you have to get emergency food stamps within 5 days. Also I cant believe that the county would be legally allowed to let applications go beyond the guidelines because the county gets fined if they have so many applications pending. They could always do them by hand on paper. I did it on paper when I worked there. Its certainly possible to do. Im wondering if either A. he is still ineligible and not telling us and they told him that at the application or B. he has been approved and the benefits are on his card but he has lost his card so he doesnt know it. I asked him last night if he had checked his card for the balance and he said he couldnt find his card anymore. I was astounded. I asked him if he didnt keep it in his wallet and he said no, he threw it in a box. </p><p></p><p>Supposedly he has an appointment today with the mental health people and he is going to stop by there to check...who knows. I am working on insisting that he stop calling the psychiatrist and therapists..."head doctor" "crazy place" and other assorted not nice names. He also refers to psychiatric medications as crazy making drugs. Of course he thinks any diagnosis is laughable. Bipolar is crazy, just crazy...those people are psycho. I have no idea why Tony thinks I should ignore that. I stopped him saying head doctor by saying look...call the place by its given name or mental health or the doctors name. Or say psychiatrist or therapist. You dont say not nice names because its rude. I said its like calling Indians Injuns or redskins.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 584443, member: 1514"] hey, sorry it took me so long to get back here. My laptop keyboard is failing and I have to use a plug in one to type so its a bit of a pain. Cant wait until I can replace this thing! I have to talk to Cory over the phone because he is in TX but I have done that and I have come to the conclusion that the only collusion with Tony was on the phone. As far as him taking the stuff, I am not buying him suddenly going on a decorating gig. I have a sinking feeling he thought the stuff could be sold to one of those places that buy silver but he found out differently. All this happened at a time when they were broke as heck. Or Mandy did it and he is covering for her. Either is possible. This is stuff that would go to him at some time in the future but he isnt in a position that I think is stable enough right now. I found that out with Jamie years ago. Im not passing down the family jewels until they are my age! They wont appreciate them until then. I wouldnt have appreciated what I have at Cory's age and I know it. And its true I dont use it, heck I dont even show it because of having so many people and kids in and out of my house. Now about the sugar. Tony found the sugar jar on the shelf in the laundry room. He is "suspecting" that I took the sugar and hid it there because I blamed Buck for stealing my stuff. I dont think this makes a lick of sense for so many reasons. Number one...I didnt do it. Number two, I can hardly reach that shelf with nothing in my hands which is why I dont use it for anything even laundry soap much less a fairly heavy jar of sugar. Number three, if I wanted to steal the sugar I have a huge bedroom I could have stashed it in, including a closet we dont use which has several boxes in front of it at the moment...or it could be in those boxes! Or even better, I could have stuck it in my car and taken it off and threw it away and it would never have been found. To me it makes more sense that either Buck accidentally stuck it there when he was cleaning up in the kitchen. He puts things in the oddest places. Or, he put it there on purpose after making a big stink about the sugar being gone to everyone so that he could cause a fuss in the house. What else could he say was gone but something he wants? Something Tony knew was just there. We had just had a to do in the house because I wouldnt buy any sugar until Buck used up the stevia or one of those other type things that he had told me he wanted to try but then never even touched. Once he used it up, I bought sugar again. See, he is diabetic and I asked him if he wanted us to get that for him so he could have that instead of using actual sugar. I was being nice. When he never even touched it, I got mad. The stuff isnt cheap and he uses a lot of sugar. Much more than tony and I. So I said he was using the stuff I bought before we bought anymore sugar. I didnt think that was asking too much. But evidently Tony thinks that was enough for me to hold sugar hostage. Nope, especially since the bag of sugar that got gone was a bag that I bought anyway. And I bought the jar. I could understand if it was something Buck owned but it was ours. After having a very heated argument with Tony, I have decided to give it until Buck gets the letter from Social Security about his disability decision. They have 4 months to get that first decision to him. With luck it wont take that long. If he is approved, then he can get out. If he is not approved then Tony is going to have to figure something else out because I am not going to have him here for the duration of the appeals process. That can take years. There is no way I will do that. He will simply have to find some sort of work and get a place to live. The 4 months will be in May. I am going to have Tony tell Buck he has to be out by June 1st so he has to find work if he hasnt heard from disability by April 30th. There is one thing that makes me think that disability may be going to approve him on the first try. They have not sent him to any of their doctors at all. This is not normal. But one of the things I found out going through my disability applications was that one of the easiest disability applications to get was for a construction worker with nothing more than a HS diploma and over age 50. They dont consider them very able to be retrained. And most are completely broken down physically. I do think Buck needs to call social security and ask about his application though since he hasnt heard anything in a month or so since he got the letter saying he didnt qualify for regular SSDI which I knew he wouldnt based on his work history. He simply hasnt worked enough in the last 10 quarters. Thats sad to me. I have no clue how he has supported himself and he just shrugs. Obviously mooching off people. I am just going to count down days. I do want him to get food stamps though to contribute to the household. He claims he applied the same day he went down to talk to social security which would have been no later than the first week of February. I cant swear to the date and he cant find the paperwork. I do know the date I filled out his application online but I dont know when his appointment was although I know it was the same week. I could figure it out. It has been well over the 30 days they have to complete the food stamp application though and so far he hasnt gotten any letters saying he has been approved or denied. He says that they told him that this county was putting in a new computer system and it would take longer for all applications to be processed. I am not buying that. It is a federal law that if you come in with no income you have to get emergency food stamps within 5 days. Also I cant believe that the county would be legally allowed to let applications go beyond the guidelines because the county gets fined if they have so many applications pending. They could always do them by hand on paper. I did it on paper when I worked there. Its certainly possible to do. Im wondering if either A. he is still ineligible and not telling us and they told him that at the application or B. he has been approved and the benefits are on his card but he has lost his card so he doesnt know it. I asked him last night if he had checked his card for the balance and he said he couldnt find his card anymore. I was astounded. I asked him if he didnt keep it in his wallet and he said no, he threw it in a box. Supposedly he has an appointment today with the mental health people and he is going to stop by there to check...who knows. I am working on insisting that he stop calling the psychiatrist and therapists..."head doctor" "crazy place" and other assorted not nice names. He also refers to psychiatric medications as crazy making drugs. Of course he thinks any diagnosis is laughable. Bipolar is crazy, just crazy...those people are psycho. I have no idea why Tony thinks I should ignore that. I stopped him saying head doctor by saying look...call the place by its given name or mental health or the doctors name. Or say psychiatrist or therapist. You dont say not nice names because its rude. I said its like calling Indians Injuns or redskins. [/QUOTE]
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