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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 434101" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry. It has to be hard to learn about the new charges and to realize that he is still lying to you. It is hard, but do not bail him out. Chances are, since he knows the judge has promised to be tough on him, he would run and you would lose the bail amount. You don't need that, nor to worry about him doing more illegal things on the streets. I would let him handle this round of charges and any future ones without any input from you except to let him know that you love him and are disappointed. Don't put money on his account, don't accept collect calls from him in jail/prison. Not right now at least. Letters would be good. Maybe on special occasions sending a package, but he has to handle this himself and learn that it is not where he wants to spend his life. so don't make it easier on him - let him have the full experience, for whatever it will do for him.</p><p></p><p>As for the girlfriend being pregnant, what would you gain from knowing about it? Knowing won't add to your life unless the anxiety of not knowing for sure is causing real problems for you. The girl will want help at some point and will reach out, or he will. most likely for money. You have to decide what role you want to play and you may or may not have much choice. It depends on how she feels about your son, the baby and about grandparents. I would stay out of it, but understand that not knowing may be very hard on you.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can stay detached from all of this. (((((hugs)))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 434101, member: 1233"] I am so sorry. It has to be hard to learn about the new charges and to realize that he is still lying to you. It is hard, but do not bail him out. Chances are, since he knows the judge has promised to be tough on him, he would run and you would lose the bail amount. You don't need that, nor to worry about him doing more illegal things on the streets. I would let him handle this round of charges and any future ones without any input from you except to let him know that you love him and are disappointed. Don't put money on his account, don't accept collect calls from him in jail/prison. Not right now at least. Letters would be good. Maybe on special occasions sending a package, but he has to handle this himself and learn that it is not where he wants to spend his life. so don't make it easier on him - let him have the full experience, for whatever it will do for him. As for the girlfriend being pregnant, what would you gain from knowing about it? Knowing won't add to your life unless the anxiety of not knowing for sure is causing real problems for you. The girl will want help at some point and will reach out, or he will. most likely for money. You have to decide what role you want to play and you may or may not have much choice. It depends on how she feels about your son, the baby and about grandparents. I would stay out of it, but understand that not knowing may be very hard on you. I hope you can stay detached from all of this. (((((hugs))))) [/QUOTE]
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