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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 290687" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Tracey, </p><p> </p><p>While we never cheer openly that our children are in jail - I think every one of us who has had a kid in jail does a silent "thank you" because while they are there it gives us, as tormented parents a break of sorts. </p><p> </p><p>If your Mother insists on enabling him by finding the money to get your son out of jail? Tell her that it will be by HER hands alone that his intervention and chance for getting clean is stopped. I would also tell your step dad to privately call the phone company and have all collect calls blocked from his phone number without telling her. At this point she can't handle the calls. I'm sure they upset her, frustrate her, and she sounds like a fixer. MUST FIX THIS...NOW. Must. And when the phone rings and she hears the bell - it's like she goes somewhere else in her mind and then - WHAM - nothing else matters but finding a fix for this problem. It's also an addiction. </p><p> </p><p>So help her - get her out of the house while your step dad calls the phone company and puts a block on the phone. </p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry for you. Hopefully this is where the rubber meets the road for your son and he gets the help that he needs to stop the heroin, find peace in his life and make some life-long changes in himself. I tell myself all the time that it doesn't matter where my son finds peace - as long as he finds it. I tell myself that because I'm not sure that my son is done making life's lessons hard for himself and he could end up back in jail again. I can't fix him. I can only hope that he finds peace - whether that's doing laundry in the prison system and going to the library on his days off - or working in the garden at the state prison yard...I'd like for him to grow up, have a family and freedom - but that's MY interpretation of what is a peace for his life. I just try to remember that and put it into motion in my brain daily. Not as easy as it sounds. </p><p> </p><p>Hang in there - When you're ready and able - you'll visit him. We'll be there to hold you up. Hugs & Support...</p><p> </p><p>Much Love </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 290687, member: 4964"] Tracey, While we never cheer openly that our children are in jail - I think every one of us who has had a kid in jail does a silent "thank you" because while they are there it gives us, as tormented parents a break of sorts. If your Mother insists on enabling him by finding the money to get your son out of jail? Tell her that it will be by HER hands alone that his intervention and chance for getting clean is stopped. I would also tell your step dad to privately call the phone company and have all collect calls blocked from his phone number without telling her. At this point she can't handle the calls. I'm sure they upset her, frustrate her, and she sounds like a fixer. MUST FIX THIS...NOW. Must. And when the phone rings and she hears the bell - it's like she goes somewhere else in her mind and then - WHAM - nothing else matters but finding a fix for this problem. It's also an addiction. So help her - get her out of the house while your step dad calls the phone company and puts a block on the phone. I'm so sorry for you. Hopefully this is where the rubber meets the road for your son and he gets the help that he needs to stop the heroin, find peace in his life and make some life-long changes in himself. I tell myself all the time that it doesn't matter where my son finds peace - as long as he finds it. I tell myself that because I'm not sure that my son is done making life's lessons hard for himself and he could end up back in jail again. I can't fix him. I can only hope that he finds peace - whether that's doing laundry in the prison system and going to the library on his days off - or working in the garden at the state prison yard...I'd like for him to grow up, have a family and freedom - but that's MY interpretation of what is a peace for his life. I just try to remember that and put it into motion in my brain daily. Not as easy as it sounds. Hang in there - When you're ready and able - you'll visit him. We'll be there to hold you up. Hugs & Support... Much Love Star [/QUOTE]
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