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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 247871" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>DDD, do you know if the evaluation focuses on my parenting skills or my mental health or ability to care for my son or what? The form says psychiatric testing- I somehow feel sure that they aren't really doing neuropsychologist testing. I can't even get the sd to foot the bill for that on difficult child. LOL! Also, do they need info on difficult child's diagnosis, history, etc., so they know that I'm not making this up? Do they need to speak with his psychiatrist or my employer or anything like that? (you know, like when our kids are evaluation'd, they have teachers and parents fill out forms.)</p><p></p><p>Somehow, I keep thinking of my last face-to-face conversation with difficult child's therapist. I was saying that I had to stop and regroup and take control back of my house and go back to work. He kept nodding like he was in agreement and that I'd had some great revelation there that maybe he had helped with. Then I said, of course that means that I won't be able to do all that PO expects and I won't be able to supervise difficult child as he needs and I certainly won't be able to keep bringing difficult child to appts and spending half my time advocating for him. There for a second, I thought maybe therapist almost got a jest of the problem. And I do wonder, why is it that all these people that want to tell me how I should be spending my life can completely ignore that I am the one making sure these phone calls get made, meetings are attended and prepared for, the attnys have much needed info, etc. Who do they think is doing that?</p><p></p><p>GAL had the info from psychiatrist that difficult child could go back to that place- remember how it was discussed on Friday and psychiatrist said he would call gal and let her know so it wassn't "left up to the MOTHER to relay info to the judge"? Ok, then judge asked how long could he stay up there. Who had that answer? Me. How? It was me on the conference call thru the meetings, not the GAL. Remember the arraignment- it was me that had put the previous motion into the judge and me that knew where difficult child's file was. Do they not think that it takes its toll on a parent to raise the difficult child, deal with the knife in the face or at the neck, pay the psychiatric hospital bills, take him all the necessaary places, advocate for him, and be the only person keeping up with all this because you know if you don't, no one else will? If they think it's more than I can deal with, then why don't they help instead of figuring out more to tell me to do?</p><p></p><p>Also, since the county says it could take twice as long to get an evaluation done as what we have, time wise, before the next court appearance- do you think there's any chance that I could tell them that I saw a therapist a few times in the Dec-Jan period and see if they would accept a report from her? (She's actually the one that told me I should be looking into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for difficult child.) She is not a county mental health person, but she is a psychiatric, PHd. The only reason courts order stuff from the county mental health dept is because they are not allowed to order something from a private prof.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 247871, member: 3699"] DDD, do you know if the evaluation focuses on my parenting skills or my mental health or ability to care for my son or what? The form says psychiatric testing- I somehow feel sure that they aren't really doing neuropsychologist testing. I can't even get the sd to foot the bill for that on difficult child. LOL! Also, do they need info on difficult child's diagnosis, history, etc., so they know that I'm not making this up? Do they need to speak with his psychiatrist or my employer or anything like that? (you know, like when our kids are evaluation'd, they have teachers and parents fill out forms.) Somehow, I keep thinking of my last face-to-face conversation with difficult child's therapist. I was saying that I had to stop and regroup and take control back of my house and go back to work. He kept nodding like he was in agreement and that I'd had some great revelation there that maybe he had helped with. Then I said, of course that means that I won't be able to do all that PO expects and I won't be able to supervise difficult child as he needs and I certainly won't be able to keep bringing difficult child to appts and spending half my time advocating for him. There for a second, I thought maybe therapist almost got a jest of the problem. And I do wonder, why is it that all these people that want to tell me how I should be spending my life can completely ignore that I am the one making sure these phone calls get made, meetings are attended and prepared for, the attnys have much needed info, etc. Who do they think is doing that? GAL had the info from psychiatrist that difficult child could go back to that place- remember how it was discussed on Friday and psychiatrist said he would call gal and let her know so it wassn't "left up to the MOTHER to relay info to the judge"? Ok, then judge asked how long could he stay up there. Who had that answer? Me. How? It was me on the conference call thru the meetings, not the GAL. Remember the arraignment- it was me that had put the previous motion into the judge and me that knew where difficult child's file was. Do they not think that it takes its toll on a parent to raise the difficult child, deal with the knife in the face or at the neck, pay the psychiatric hospital bills, take him all the necessaary places, advocate for him, and be the only person keeping up with all this because you know if you don't, no one else will? If they think it's more than I can deal with, then why don't they help instead of figuring out more to tell me to do? Also, since the county says it could take twice as long to get an evaluation done as what we have, time wise, before the next court appearance- do you think there's any chance that I could tell them that I saw a therapist a few times in the Dec-Jan period and see if they would accept a report from her? (She's actually the one that told me I should be looking into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) for difficult child.) She is not a county mental health person, but she is a psychiatric, PHd. The only reason courts order stuff from the county mental health dept is because they are not allowed to order something from a private prof. [/QUOTE]
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