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Well, she got her bellybutton pierced
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 296733" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Sometimes you have to bend a little, as long as it is in the right direction under the circumstances.</p><p></p><p>I've had people criticise me and husband for lifestyle choices of our children, or similar. One bloke from our church who we also hired to do some work for us began to lecture me about easy child & BF1 (as he was then) living together; how, as Christian people, did we allow it?</p><p>I told the guy (gently, because he is a friend even if he should n=know when to stay out of something) that easy child was old enough to live her own life and make her own choices, and that pushing BF1 to marry our daughter was not the way we wanted to go. When he proposed because HE was ready, was when we wanted it. HE had to want it, not be proposing just because we pushed him into it.</p><p></p><p>It is like asking for an apology from someone - it's totally worthless if you have to ask for it. But freely offered, that is the right stuff.</p><p></p><p>Several years later, the guy has stopped offering this kind of advice around town (it's a bit rich, coming from him anyway) and his own kids have reached THAT age when he has to make sure he's not throwing too many stones...</p><p></p><p>I've seen this over the years. People form church, especially the men, who get righteous about another family and begin to lecture them about the morals of the daughter of the house (never the sons!) but who either don't notice their own daughtes sneaking out at night, or who when they DO notice, suddenly go silent on the topic.</p><p></p><p>So if anyone criticises, jsut nod and smile. Then wait a few years...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 296733, member: 1991"] Sometimes you have to bend a little, as long as it is in the right direction under the circumstances. I've had people criticise me and husband for lifestyle choices of our children, or similar. One bloke from our church who we also hired to do some work for us began to lecture me about easy child & BF1 (as he was then) living together; how, as Christian people, did we allow it? I told the guy (gently, because he is a friend even if he should n=know when to stay out of something) that easy child was old enough to live her own life and make her own choices, and that pushing BF1 to marry our daughter was not the way we wanted to go. When he proposed because HE was ready, was when we wanted it. HE had to want it, not be proposing just because we pushed him into it. It is like asking for an apology from someone - it's totally worthless if you have to ask for it. But freely offered, that is the right stuff. Several years later, the guy has stopped offering this kind of advice around town (it's a bit rich, coming from him anyway) and his own kids have reached THAT age when he has to make sure he's not throwing too many stones... I've seen this over the years. People form church, especially the men, who get righteous about another family and begin to lecture them about the morals of the daughter of the house (never the sons!) but who either don't notice their own daughtes sneaking out at night, or who when they DO notice, suddenly go silent on the topic. So if anyone criticises, jsut nod and smile. Then wait a few years... Marg [/QUOTE]
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