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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 470674"><p>DO NOT LET HER DRAG YOU BACK...</p><p></p><p>You have a week to decide what your boundaries will be...set them. Write them down as a reminder. Do not vary from them. Do your best to put your mommy heart on ice...</p><p></p><p>"Does she really think that we are going to pay for her cellphone, car insurance, cigarettes, gasoline, and food while she spends a few weeks with her boyfriend who I know drinks and smokes marijuana? I can't imagine a worst place for her to go. They fight constantly, break up, and difficult child goes into a nosedive..."</p><p></p><p>If you won't pay her way while she lives with her boyfriend, let her know. Pretend she is a toddler and you are offering her a choice between a ham sandwich OR grilled cheese. One OR the other --she may want PBJ - but it's not an option. She can go to a halfway house and you will support her financially or she can live with her boyfriend and do without. Like the PBJ, living with her boyfriend while you support her is not an option. </p><p></p><p>difficult children have a way of turning our reasonable guidelines against us. Remember, you are not choosing to cut her off financially. She is choosing to do without by living with boyfriend. She could choose to continue with your financial support at a halfway house. She has a choice. </p><p></p><p>XXXOOO hang tough...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 470674"] DO NOT LET HER DRAG YOU BACK... You have a week to decide what your boundaries will be...set them. Write them down as a reminder. Do not vary from them. Do your best to put your mommy heart on ice... "Does she really think that we are going to pay for her cellphone, car insurance, cigarettes, gasoline, and food while she spends a few weeks with her boyfriend who I know drinks and smokes marijuana? I can't imagine a worst place for her to go. They fight constantly, break up, and difficult child goes into a nosedive..." If you won't pay her way while she lives with her boyfriend, let her know. Pretend she is a toddler and you are offering her a choice between a ham sandwich OR grilled cheese. One OR the other --she may want PBJ - but it's not an option. She can go to a halfway house and you will support her financially or she can live with her boyfriend and do without. Like the PBJ, living with her boyfriend while you support her is not an option. difficult children have a way of turning our reasonable guidelines against us. Remember, you are not choosing to cut her off financially. She is choosing to do without by living with boyfriend. She could choose to continue with your financial support at a halfway house. She has a choice. XXXOOO hang tough... [/QUOTE]
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