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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 471024" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>This is so typical, say what she has to in order to get released and even though she has no intention of going to a halfway house. I saw so many young women do this very same thing at release time, their parents wanting them to continue in some sort of supportive living arrangement and the just want to be free, to do back to doing what they want. Kathy I know it's so heartbreaking, you hoped she would want to get sober and have a different life. But she doesn't want it bad enough yet. Don't give up. When she finally does realize she wants/needs you will have your line drawn in the sand, you will support her in a sober living environment and that's it.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child told us that when she asked to come back home after relapsing and getting kicked out that the best thing we could have said was that she couldn't come home until she was sober and the only place we would help her with was a sober house. She had exhausted all other options except literally living in a cardboard box and so she knew it was her only option.</p><p></p><p>I think you have said and done all the right things. It's now up to her.</p><p></p><p>TL my difficult child is just like yours when it comes to rtelationships. I swear that if her loser boyfriend from high school would take her back she would come running. So many counselors have asked her when she is going to stop settling and reach, She hasn't yet been able to answer that. And that I believe is one of the biggest scars from her adoption.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 471024, member: 59"] This is so typical, say what she has to in order to get released and even though she has no intention of going to a halfway house. I saw so many young women do this very same thing at release time, their parents wanting them to continue in some sort of supportive living arrangement and the just want to be free, to do back to doing what they want. Kathy I know it's so heartbreaking, you hoped she would want to get sober and have a different life. But she doesn't want it bad enough yet. Don't give up. When she finally does realize she wants/needs you will have your line drawn in the sand, you will support her in a sober living environment and that's it. My difficult child told us that when she asked to come back home after relapsing and getting kicked out that the best thing we could have said was that she couldn't come home until she was sober and the only place we would help her with was a sober house. She had exhausted all other options except literally living in a cardboard box and so she knew it was her only option. I think you have said and done all the right things. It's now up to her. TL my difficult child is just like yours when it comes to rtelationships. I swear that if her loser boyfriend from high school would take her back she would come running. So many counselors have asked her when she is going to stop settling and reach, She hasn't yet been able to answer that. And that I believe is one of the biggest scars from her adoption. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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