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<blockquote data-quote="Jungleland" data-source="post: 145550" data-attributes="member: 4598"><p><span style="color: purple">AND IT GETS WORSE!!!</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #800080">OMG I am so sick of drama! Last night easy child 2 called and said that he would be needing a place to stay for a while. husband and I already were prepared for this sort of call as easy child 2 and his fiance have not been doing well for a long time. So, husband says just pack up and come on up. Then easy child 2 says, "Dad, it's not just me, it's all of us" I couldn't hear what was husband was hearing but his jaw literally dropped and he went pale! Freaked me out!!! I guess easy child 2 was living in this apartment with his fiance and her 4 yo son "illegally", it is a rent controlled, brand new complex with very strict rules. Of course husband being husband, he did not get any more details, like when or why fiance and her son couldn't live with HER mom, yada yada yada. They will be coming here this afternoon to "talk".</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #800080">I went into immediate flip out mode because I really cannot stand his fiance or her son, sounds AWFUL but you'd have to know them to understand. I tried to calm down and asked husband is he was seriously thinking of allowing this situation to happen. Yes, there is enough room here, barely, but yikes! And he looked at ME like I was nuts and said of course he was thinking about it, he couldn't allow them to be homeless. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #800080">Well, we decided to talk about it later, after the girls went to sleep. I tried to remain very calm and just stated I was very concerned about this new situation and that I felt we are needing this time to work on OUR family's issues, to see if we can make it work out. I am very worried that this would not allow us the chance, it would be mostly chaos with little "R" here, he is such a destructive child, so mean spirited and he and Aly fight like crazy. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #800080">husband agrees mostly with what I am feeling but cannot imagine saying no. I told him, then don't, I will! I have absolutely no problem with my son moving back home but don't think I can stay here if he was going to allow "K" and "R" to be here. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #800080">husband did agree to marital counseling as well as family and individual, if the insurance will cover it.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #800080">Aly's meeting went very well yestday, I gave her copies of everything and the parent report. Sounds like a really awesome program that will, if she qualifies, help her with living skills, peer relationships, more counseling (which I hope means for the entire family). Can include, if approved, horse therapy, Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) workers in the home, respite, and more that we will find out about if she qualifies. </span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #800080">Sorry this is so long and jumping around but I am very confused this morning. At times I feel husband are on the same page but alot of the time we are so not. He thinks it might be a good idea for me and Jayme to stay at my sister's place for a "transition period", work with a therapist and see if we can get closer on parenting, etc.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #800080">I am not sure which way to go so I want to take a few days to just sort of chill out here before any more changes are made.</span></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: #800080">Thanks for being here, life pretty much ***** right now!</span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jungleland, post: 145550, member: 4598"] [COLOR=purple]AND IT GETS WORSE!!![/COLOR] [COLOR=#800080]OMG I am so sick of drama! Last night easy child 2 called and said that he would be needing a place to stay for a while. husband and I already were prepared for this sort of call as easy child 2 and his fiance have not been doing well for a long time. So, husband says just pack up and come on up. Then easy child 2 says, "Dad, it's not just me, it's all of us" I couldn't hear what was husband was hearing but his jaw literally dropped and he went pale! Freaked me out!!! I guess easy child 2 was living in this apartment with his fiance and her 4 yo son "illegally", it is a rent controlled, brand new complex with very strict rules. Of course husband being husband, he did not get any more details, like when or why fiance and her son couldn't live with HER mom, yada yada yada. They will be coming here this afternoon to "talk".[/COLOR] [COLOR=#800080]I went into immediate flip out mode because I really cannot stand his fiance or her son, sounds AWFUL but you'd have to know them to understand. I tried to calm down and asked husband is he was seriously thinking of allowing this situation to happen. Yes, there is enough room here, barely, but yikes! And he looked at ME like I was nuts and said of course he was thinking about it, he couldn't allow them to be homeless. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#800080]Well, we decided to talk about it later, after the girls went to sleep. I tried to remain very calm and just stated I was very concerned about this new situation and that I felt we are needing this time to work on OUR family's issues, to see if we can make it work out. I am very worried that this would not allow us the chance, it would be mostly chaos with little "R" here, he is such a destructive child, so mean spirited and he and Aly fight like crazy. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#800080]husband agrees mostly with what I am feeling but cannot imagine saying no. I told him, then don't, I will! I have absolutely no problem with my son moving back home but don't think I can stay here if he was going to allow "K" and "R" to be here. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#800080]husband did agree to marital counseling as well as family and individual, if the insurance will cover it.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#800080]Aly's meeting went very well yestday, I gave her copies of everything and the parent report. Sounds like a really awesome program that will, if she qualifies, help her with living skills, peer relationships, more counseling (which I hope means for the entire family). Can include, if approved, horse therapy, Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) workers in the home, respite, and more that we will find out about if she qualifies. [/COLOR] [COLOR=#800080]Sorry this is so long and jumping around but I am very confused this morning. At times I feel husband are on the same page but alot of the time we are so not. He thinks it might be a good idea for me and Jayme to stay at my sister's place for a "transition period", work with a therapist and see if we can get closer on parenting, etc.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#800080]I am not sure which way to go so I want to take a few days to just sort of chill out here before any more changes are made.[/COLOR] [COLOR=#800080]Thanks for being here, life pretty much ***** right now![/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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