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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 377944" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">{{{Beth}}} I'm so sorry you've got that 'up against the wall' feeling. I know what that feels like as well as the others. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">One tricky thing will be to find a way to explain to the kiddos that part of the reason that Dad isn't so much of a jerk anymore is because you live in separate homes. At some point they will accept that they can still have a loving relationship with Dad, albeit, in separate homes. It is a tough thing, it really is, and it's sad. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">As for you - you really need to put away your game face for a minute and find ways to get some alone time. Whether your dad, mother in law/bff, or soon to be exh takes them for a day, a night, a weekend, or whatever...you need to be able to enjoy being home alone for a bit now and then. Perhaps you could find a parent of one of the kids' friends to start a cooperative kid sitting service for one another. You take theirs for a day, she takes yours for a day, etc. I'm sure there are other parents out there who would love a day or evening alone but can't afford a sitter.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Now that the kiddos are back in school, will you be able to find time to train Furb? Is there a local vocational school nearby where you can have your oil changed for cheap (sometimes free!). I know that most tire places do not have refurbished tired like they did in the old days, however, maybe it would be worth it to get a SEARS card just for this purpose and then pay it off? They have SEARS service centers that do tires and everything else. Just a thought. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Is stbexh giving you support of any kind? Is it regular? Have you arranged for any type of visitation and overnight visits for the children? I would be all over that asap. If too much time passes without these things in place, you're setting a precedent. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Many many hugs. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 377944, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]{{{Beth}}} I'm so sorry you've got that 'up against the wall' feeling. I know what that feels like as well as the others. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]One tricky thing will be to find a way to explain to the kiddos that part of the reason that Dad isn't so much of a jerk anymore is because you live in separate homes. At some point they will accept that they can still have a loving relationship with Dad, albeit, in separate homes. It is a tough thing, it really is, and it's sad. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]As for you - you really need to put away your game face for a minute and find ways to get some alone time. Whether your dad, mother in law/bff, or soon to be exh takes them for a day, a night, a weekend, or whatever...you need to be able to enjoy being home alone for a bit now and then. Perhaps you could find a parent of one of the kids' friends to start a cooperative kid sitting service for one another. You take theirs for a day, she takes yours for a day, etc. I'm sure there are other parents out there who would love a day or evening alone but can't afford a sitter.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Now that the kiddos are back in school, will you be able to find time to train Furb? Is there a local vocational school nearby where you can have your oil changed for cheap (sometimes free!). I know that most tire places do not have refurbished tired like they did in the old days, however, maybe it would be worth it to get a SEARS card just for this purpose and then pay it off? They have SEARS service centers that do tires and everything else. Just a thought. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Is stbexh giving you support of any kind? Is it regular? Have you arranged for any type of visitation and overnight visits for the children? I would be all over that asap. If too much time passes without these things in place, you're setting a precedent. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Many many hugs. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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