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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 230757" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Jo, given your easy child's income breakdown, I honestly think you should raise her rent a bit. Perhaps to the equivalent of what she would pay if she were in an apartment with roommates. I'm not sure what rents are like in your neck of the woods, but a 2-bedroom apartment near me goes for about $1100 per month. So I don't think charging her a monthly rent of $300 or $400 would be amiss. </p><p></p><p>It would do a few things:</p><p>- Allow her to prepare for the time when she does move out. She will already have a realistic budget in place and won't have to make too many changes.</p><p>- It would let her know that you mean business. Sometimes when we're too easy on our kids they take it as license to walk all over us (I've been learning this one the hard way)</p><p>- It might actually cover some of the expenses of having her live at home. I'm sure that $140 doesn't cover the groceries, electric bill, water bill and all the other things that go up when you add another person into the household.</p><p></p><p>As for difficult child...not much you can do at the moment, but you already know that.</p><p></p><p>As for H...don't know what to say there either. I agree with Star that you need to have a plan B for the conversation in case he becomes incapable of toe-ing the party line and goes "off-message". Some sort of contingency plan, whether it's taking a break to regroup, postponing the conversation until later, or something. Just not letting him get into a screaming match that derails the conversation, sets up both girls to feel victimized and band together against the "evil parents", or whatever the fallout is likely to be.</p><p></p><p>Sending strength (and perhaps some duct tape for H's runaway mouth, should you need it. I have plenty left over from difficult child<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/tongue.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":tongue:" title="tongue :tongue:" data-shortname=":tongue:" />)</p><p></p><p>Trinity</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 230757, member: 3907"] Jo, given your easy child's income breakdown, I honestly think you should raise her rent a bit. Perhaps to the equivalent of what she would pay if she were in an apartment with roommates. I'm not sure what rents are like in your neck of the woods, but a 2-bedroom apartment near me goes for about $1100 per month. So I don't think charging her a monthly rent of $300 or $400 would be amiss. It would do a few things: - Allow her to prepare for the time when she does move out. She will already have a realistic budget in place and won't have to make too many changes. - It would let her know that you mean business. Sometimes when we're too easy on our kids they take it as license to walk all over us (I've been learning this one the hard way) - It might actually cover some of the expenses of having her live at home. I'm sure that $140 doesn't cover the groceries, electric bill, water bill and all the other things that go up when you add another person into the household. As for difficult child...not much you can do at the moment, but you already know that. As for H...don't know what to say there either. I agree with Star that you need to have a plan B for the conversation in case he becomes incapable of toe-ing the party line and goes "off-message". Some sort of contingency plan, whether it's taking a break to regroup, postponing the conversation until later, or something. Just not letting him get into a screaming match that derails the conversation, sets up both girls to feel victimized and band together against the "evil parents", or whatever the fallout is likely to be. Sending strength (and perhaps some duct tape for H's runaway mouth, should you need it. I have plenty left over from difficult child:raspberry-tounge:) Trinity [/QUOTE]
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