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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 230842" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">H didn't want to do it. He hemmed and hawed and sat in the living room. I finally told him not to bother joining us - he could eavesdrop from there. But in the end he did come into the kitchen where we were. I couldn't look at his face while I was speaking because it was disturbing. Haha. But...</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">It went very well! No histrionics, no yelling, no accusations, no shaming, nothing unpleasant. easy child was completely calm and accepting. difficult child was as well. She sort of cringed when I mentioned her getting a job and only having a couple of more weeks to do so, but she was also fine with everything I said. I gave each of them a copy of my spreadsheet detailing out monthly expenses and explained that there were probably a few things I forgot to put down. I then explained that not only were they old enough to cover their own personal expenses, we simple are no longer in a financial position to do so. I reminded them of all the ways in which we've helped them, i.e., cars, insurance, clothing, college costs, cells. I told them that as long as they are trying to help themselves, we are willing to help in any way we can...but that 'extras' will need to be paid for by them. </span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #4b0082">They even asked about some of our monthly expenses - they seemed surprised at some of the amounts we paid. easy child circled dog food - I think she felt a wee bit targeted! Hahaha.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: indigo">It went so well. I need to pinch myself. Thank you for giving me the strength to go through with it. It needed to be done.</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 230842, member: 2211"] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]H didn't want to do it. He hemmed and hawed and sat in the living room. I finally told him not to bother joining us - he could eavesdrop from there. But in the end he did come into the kitchen where we were. I couldn't look at his face while I was speaking because it was disturbing. Haha. But...[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]It went very well! No histrionics, no yelling, no accusations, no shaming, nothing unpleasant. easy child was completely calm and accepting. difficult child was as well. She sort of cringed when I mentioned her getting a job and only having a couple of more weeks to do so, but she was also fine with everything I said. I gave each of them a copy of my spreadsheet detailing out monthly expenses and explained that there were probably a few things I forgot to put down. I then explained that not only were they old enough to cover their own personal expenses, we simple are no longer in a financial position to do so. I reminded them of all the ways in which we've helped them, i.e., cars, insurance, clothing, college costs, cells. I told them that as long as they are trying to help themselves, we are willing to help in any way we can...but that 'extras' will need to be paid for by them. [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=#4b0082]They even asked about some of our monthly expenses - they seemed surprised at some of the amounts we paid. easy child circled dog food - I think she felt a wee bit targeted! Hahaha.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=3][COLOR=indigo]It went so well. I need to pinch myself. Thank you for giving me the strength to go through with it. It needed to be done.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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