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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 197139" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>We did end up scrapping the contract as we'd written it, even with the preliminary and final sentences left in (about difficult child being loved and an integral part of the family, and wanting him to succeed). It still seemed too draconian. difficult child would not have been able to work within its terms and he'd end up out with no supports. He seemed to be starting to turn around - he's been clean since May (after smoking half an ounce of pot daily, plus other junk) and sober for more than a month. He has gone to work when he's had a job. Some of the big things are working, just not all of them. Since we'd gotten the appointment with a new therapist we decided to wait for his suggestions.</p><p></p><p>That said, here's the next kicker. difficult child was fired yesterday, after eleven days on his new job. He was anxious about this job, knew it was better than pretty well anything else he can get locally, it had benefits after three months ... he wanted to do well. </p><p></p><p>The wife of one of the managers is our accountant and she called today to let us know why difficult child was let go. Apparently he weirded the managers out. The first week of his job, he burned his lunch bag on one of the picnic tables outside. He was told not to do it. Then another day, a maintenance worker saw him throw his lunch garbage into another office in the building. Not into a wastebasket, just in the door. He was reprimanded. The next week a manager referred to a previous conversation where he had reprimanded difficult child, saying, 'You remember I talked to you last week'; and difficult child said he didn't recall their talk. Then yesterday at lunch difficult child was overheard telling coworkers that he's been arrested four times (he hasn't, he's been arrested once); that he kicked in the door of his parents' house recently; and that he's just been kicked out. The managers, on hearing this, decided he had to go. What difficult child told us about being fired was that he'd told two coworkers that he was looking for another job, and he was fired for that. He didn't mention any of this other stuff.</p><p></p><p>I didn't take difficult child around to drop off job applications today. What's the point? This is a small town, he could go through all the decent employers pretty quickly and be unemployable thereafter. I got his appointment with the new therapist moved up to 9 am tomorrow and dropped off a summary of the latest problems. </p><p></p><p>difficult child has always been strange about sharp objects and fire - never set fires, just talked strangely and would poke fruit and Kleenex boxes to pieces with any small sharp object he could find. This is all in his medical notes. I'm starting to wonder if he's delusional. What does he think will happen when he does stuff like this? Or tells women (at his previous job) that he can crush someone's head, as he squeezes an apple to pulp? Maybe he is psychotic. Maybe there's more going on in his head than he lets on. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 197139, member: 2884"] We did end up scrapping the contract as we'd written it, even with the preliminary and final sentences left in (about difficult child being loved and an integral part of the family, and wanting him to succeed). It still seemed too draconian. difficult child would not have been able to work within its terms and he'd end up out with no supports. He seemed to be starting to turn around - he's been clean since May (after smoking half an ounce of pot daily, plus other junk) and sober for more than a month. He has gone to work when he's had a job. Some of the big things are working, just not all of them. Since we'd gotten the appointment with a new therapist we decided to wait for his suggestions. That said, here's the next kicker. difficult child was fired yesterday, after eleven days on his new job. He was anxious about this job, knew it was better than pretty well anything else he can get locally, it had benefits after three months ... he wanted to do well. The wife of one of the managers is our accountant and she called today to let us know why difficult child was let go. Apparently he weirded the managers out. The first week of his job, he burned his lunch bag on one of the picnic tables outside. He was told not to do it. Then another day, a maintenance worker saw him throw his lunch garbage into another office in the building. Not into a wastebasket, just in the door. He was reprimanded. The next week a manager referred to a previous conversation where he had reprimanded difficult child, saying, 'You remember I talked to you last week'; and difficult child said he didn't recall their talk. Then yesterday at lunch difficult child was overheard telling coworkers that he's been arrested four times (he hasn't, he's been arrested once); that he kicked in the door of his parents' house recently; and that he's just been kicked out. The managers, on hearing this, decided he had to go. What difficult child told us about being fired was that he'd told two coworkers that he was looking for another job, and he was fired for that. He didn't mention any of this other stuff. I didn't take difficult child around to drop off job applications today. What's the point? This is a small town, he could go through all the decent employers pretty quickly and be unemployable thereafter. I got his appointment with the new therapist moved up to 9 am tomorrow and dropped off a summary of the latest problems. difficult child has always been strange about sharp objects and fire - never set fires, just talked strangely and would poke fruit and Kleenex boxes to pieces with any small sharp object he could find. This is all in his medical notes. I'm starting to wonder if he's delusional. What does he think will happen when he does stuff like this? Or tells women (at his previous job) that he can crush someone's head, as he squeezes an apple to pulp? Maybe he is psychotic. Maybe there's more going on in his head than he lets on. :( [/QUOTE]
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