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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 385496" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">TM, this is a one step at a time process. I set up a basket each for kt & wm at the front door for their school stuff. One at the bottom of the stairs for their games/toys. It took time but neither of them were allowed more than two toys or games out at a time; before something new came out something had to be put away. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">There are times/things you will always have to nag about. Take on the nuisances that you know duckie can handle successfully. Hanging up coat ~ homework in the basket by the front door. Put her dishes in the dishwasher. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">You can stop nagging anytime you want ~ you don't need to be standing over duckie. Watch her for a day or two & see what she will/can do on her own. Keep your voice calm & quiet when reminding her to hang up her coat or brush her teeth. The checklist on the fridge door worked her for kt, not so much for wm. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">I reminded kt at the age of 12 that by 13 they would have the knowledge to take on their daily responsibilities that I assigned. I spent a great deal of time during that year setting up schedules, teaching her the daily chores & when those chores were to be completed, etc. It was the culmination of the previous 6 years plus more young adult stuff.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'">Since that time kt has taken on more & has been reward with more freedoms, more choices in her life. Like I said it's a step by step thing. You'll need to find duckie's currency ~ her passion that will motivate her to do as she is asked knowing that this is a skill she will need as an adult.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Comic Sans MS'"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 385496, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Comic Sans MS]TM, this is a one step at a time process. I set up a basket each for kt & wm at the front door for their school stuff. One at the bottom of the stairs for their games/toys. It took time but neither of them were allowed more than two toys or games out at a time; before something new came out something had to be put away. There are times/things you will always have to nag about. Take on the nuisances that you know duckie can handle successfully. Hanging up coat ~ homework in the basket by the front door. Put her dishes in the dishwasher. You can stop nagging anytime you want ~ you don't need to be standing over duckie. Watch her for a day or two & see what she will/can do on her own. Keep your voice calm & quiet when reminding her to hang up her coat or brush her teeth. The checklist on the fridge door worked her for kt, not so much for wm. I reminded kt at the age of 12 that by 13 they would have the knowledge to take on their daily responsibilities that I assigned. I spent a great deal of time during that year setting up schedules, teaching her the daily chores & when those chores were to be completed, etc. It was the culmination of the previous 6 years plus more young adult stuff. Since that time kt has taken on more & has been reward with more freedoms, more choices in her life. Like I said it's a step by step thing. You'll need to find duckie's currency ~ her passion that will motivate her to do as she is asked knowing that this is a skill she will need as an adult. [/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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