Duckie is doing well at school and I have no reason to believe that she's having trouble grasping the material. There have been no notes or calls from the teacher and she's been on green every day. The problem (as usual) is at home. She will not do anything that's required unless I am standing over her and nagging her. Zero time management, weak organization and ODD make for a mother who feels like she's going to stroke out most nights by bedtime. The blame can (mostly) be laid at my feet as I've been helping her since school started because she was sick and having extremely long days due to her participation in a local play. So I wasn't letting her fail when she wasn't doing what she needed to be doing. But she's feeling better and the play has been over for weeks... and she's showing no sense of responsibility and getting downright belligerent when I need to remind or correct her. The tension from dealing with her last night gave me a headache so bad that I went to bed right after she did. And I needed a nap this afternoon. I told her last night that I needed for her to take responsibility. I told her that I wouldn't be nagging or reminding anymore. I told her we would have a family meeting tonight to discuss strategies for her to succeed without making me sick. husband is on board, even suggested a check list. Does anyone have additional suggestions or resources?