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<blockquote data-quote="smallworld" data-source="post: 385497" data-attributes="member: 2423"><p>TM, I went to an all-day workshop today with Dr. Ross Greene. As much as you don't want to be involved, he would say that you need to be involved by using his Collaborative Problem Solving methods with Duckie (Plan B in <em>The Explosive Child</em>). What Duckie is showing you is that she has a delay in the development of crucial cognitive skills -- often including flexiblity/adaptability. frustration tolerance and problem solving -- or has significant difficulty applying these skills when they are most needed.</p><p></p><p>Greene believes:</p><p>"Kids do well if they can."</p><p>"Behind every challenging behavior is a lagging skill and a demand for that skill (ie, an unsolved problem)."</p><p>"Unsolved problems are the specific conditions in which the demands being placed upon a person exceed the person's capacity to respond adaptively."</p><p></p><p>by the way, Greene believes that ODD is a meaningless diagnosis.</p><p>He also believes that the following sayings that parents and clinicians often throw around are completely unhelpful and don't give us information to solve the problems:</p><p>"She just wants attention."</p><p>"He just wants his own way."</p><p>"She just wants control."</p><p>"He's manipulating us."</p><p>"She has a bad attitude."</p><p>"He's making bad choices."</p><p>"She's not motivated."</p><p></p><p>I recommend checking out Greene's new website: <a href="http://www.livesinthebalance.org" target="_blank">www.livesinthebalance.org</a>.</p><p>It contains a lot of video on how to put Plan B into practice.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. I know this stuff is not easy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="smallworld, post: 385497, member: 2423"] TM, I went to an all-day workshop today with Dr. Ross Greene. As much as you don't want to be involved, he would say that you need to be involved by using his Collaborative Problem Solving methods with Duckie (Plan B in [I]The Explosive Child[/I]). What Duckie is showing you is that she has a delay in the development of crucial cognitive skills -- often including flexiblity/adaptability. frustration tolerance and problem solving -- or has significant difficulty applying these skills when they are most needed. Greene believes: "Kids do well if they can." "Behind every challenging behavior is a lagging skill and a demand for that skill (ie, an unsolved problem)." "Unsolved problems are the specific conditions in which the demands being placed upon a person exceed the person's capacity to respond adaptively." by the way, Greene believes that ODD is a meaningless diagnosis. He also believes that the following sayings that parents and clinicians often throw around are completely unhelpful and don't give us information to solve the problems: "She just wants attention." "He just wants his own way." "She just wants control." "He's manipulating us." "She has a bad attitude." "He's making bad choices." "She's not motivated." I recommend checking out Greene's new website: [URL="http://www.livesinthebalance.org"]www.livesinthebalance.org[/URL]. It contains a lot of video on how to put Plan B into practice. Hang in there. I know this stuff is not easy. [/QUOTE]
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